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writes:Do you think there is such a thing as an orgasm that *requires* BOTH gspot and clitoris stimulation?? I ask because I've heard of females having either a clitoris orgasm or a vaginal orgasm. I've tried having just a vaginal orgasm or just a clitoris orgasm, but stimulating just one doesn't do it for me and I can't reach orgasm. If I stimulate both at the same time, I can have an orgasm. Is it possible for a female to absolutely require both in order to orgasm? If it's not, I'm sure there are other factors behind why I can't seem to reach orgasm with just one or the other. Maybe I don't do it long enough because I get bored faster, or maybe not stimulating both at the same time makes me less turned on mentally and that affects reaching climax.I suppose it would help if I knew the difference between what a vaginal or a clit orgasm feels like. I heard the clit orgasm spreads throughout your body? For me, I haven't had an orgasm that felt like it was spreading throughout my body. When I reach my orgasm after stimulating both clit + vag, it feels like I have a wave of pleasure mostly in my vaginal area only and the wave of pleasure crashes down that area a few more times for a few seconds. Afterwards, my clit pulses as if there is a little heartbeat and is super sensitive (touching any more would be very uncomfortable) for a while until the excess blood leaves I guess. Help me figure out if I'm having a clit orgasm or a vag orgasm or maybe something that requires both?
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reader, HeresBoo  +, writes (16 April 2013):
 Hello anon :)I'm sorry you've received some close minded answers but let me see if I can help you further :)I'm only 18 but, like you, I have frequently searched for information on how to make my sex life as fun and rewarding as possible, for both myself and my partner and YES there are different types of orgasms, but it seems that generally refers to the way you get to orgasm. I feel a slight difference in the way my body reacts but I often have a combined. I have only ever had a clitoral only orgasm by myself and I find it shocks throughout my body more but doesn't make me as drowsy. I have had one or two vaginal only orgasms with my partner and they have been incredible for both of us, purely because it needed nothing more than the sex to get me there. Every time for those has been with me on top.But my most common is a mixed and it makes me extremely drowsy compared to the other two. There are plenty of articles all over about climaxing in different ways and I think it's fun trying out different techniques :) but YES there are different ways to have orgasm and for you they may not but there is a possibility they will feel different :)Have fun! HahaXo
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (16 April 2013):
 Such follow-ups makes me wonder why I even bothered answering. To think I wasted my time trying to give an answer when this is the thanks...
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2013): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI had no idea some of the answers would be so very opinionated, especially about whether internal/external orgasm even exist. Some of these "answers" steer away from my question, going on a huge tangent, and makes me wonder why bother responding to me at all if that is the case. Anyway, thank you to those who were more kindly successful in actually trying to answer MY question and to those who shared their own experiences.For the record there is no self-harm, that is just silly. When I said excess blood leaving the clit, I mean when the clit is excited there is a lot of blood that builds up there, that is why your clit engorges when you are aroused. When you are done with sexual activity, the excess blood will leave and it will go back to normal. Come on.It is also another silly assumption that I am getting too hung up on "classifying" an orgasm and not just enjoying it for what it is. I do not believe in a correct or incorrect orgasm or normal or abnormal. I only wish to learn about different kinds that exist and possibilities. FYI I started having sex two years ago and barely had my first orgasm by myself a few weeks ago. So, I was curious about orgasms and thus asked a question here. I enjoy my orgasm just fine, thanks. I am just curious for more knowledge and future reference. There is no need to be so presuming.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2013): To have an incredible orgasm you have to stimulate your MIND and body. You are hung up on stimulating your body. Do you have a fetish? Something weird and not quite conventional that has turned you on since a very young age (probably before you knew what sex and orgasms were)? My fetish is kind of weird and is very personal. I am turned on by stuffing--people eating way too much food. It is not something that extends to my sex life and is only something I think about or watch when I am masturbating.If you have a fetish an it is legal, you can seek out material online to stimulate your mind while you stimulate your body. It is the best way to make the most out of your orgasms.Another thing. If you can bring yourself to the brink and stop until the sensation just subsides, then bring yourself to the brink again your orgasm will be stronger when you finally give in.The more orgasms you attempt to have, the less fulfilling they will be. If you give yourself a break of a few days in between orgasms, they will be shronger and more pleasurable than going a few hours.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2013): Men have this idea that it's enough for them to go inside a woman for her to orgazm.. There have to be some clitoris stimulation for a woman to orgazm, there is no such thing as only vagina orgazm. Some women say it is, but physically it's impossible. I m sure you can orgazm only from your clitoris,myou just need more time.
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reader, R1  +, writes (13 April 2013):
 I find I only orgasm through a specific way and I think that's just because that's the way my body and mind is used to being stimulated. It would be great if there was a lot more variety but just be happy you orgasm at all!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (13 April 2013):
 there are weak orgasms and there are strong orgasms
some women sadly never have any orgasms.
there are no clitoral vs vaginal orgasms. All orgasms for men generate from the same place SAME as women... remember we all start out as the same DNA and genetic material...
if you need both internal and external stimulation to orgasm then that's the way you need it. I have a friend who has had ONE orgasm in her 50 years. ONE. she cannot find the way to make it happen for her.
Just like some men have premature ejaculation or ED some women can't orgasm. Life is not fair.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (13 April 2013):
OP I think you are over analysing the topic. Your brain has a lot to do with how you feel. From my experience vaginas only really sense hot and cold. I practice with my wife and as long as well lubed she can't really tell the difference between one or two fingers or even a dildo (unless its buzzing), there aren't many nerves there which is a good job when it gets torn in childbirth and sewn up with no anaesthetic !! What you can reach from inside is the back of the clitorial region and pressure in the right spot can make for intense feelings. But it's not like getting your moon lander down on the launch pad, concentrate too much on the mechanics and it won't happen. Much better to relax and imagine you are somewhere nice with the person of your dreams doing the most erotic thing to you (if you can't organise that in reality!). Also remember you stress and fatigue levels, and especially the time of the month make a massive difference. Also health and hormone levels. Hormone birth control can really effect those great feelings, sometimes completely stop them. Just relax and enjoy. I love the little pulses too - tells me I'm doing a good job!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2013): There are most definitely 2 types of orgasm There is the standard clitoral orgasm which can happen when the clitoris is stimulated. This can happen with or with out penetration at the same time and is often the most intense.Secondly you can also have a vaginal only orgasm which although often less intense (as in the feeling is more localized and less 'full body')it's still quite a feeling! This type of orgasm comes from just penetrative sex/ g spot (internal) stimulation and although it can take a while to find the right position (and the right penis!)when you get there it's worth it! This type of orgasm often results in squirting, which although is a bit of a messy shock the first time, is an amazing feeling both you and your man will love!So as there are 2 types, you can (occasionally) get them in sync, have a double (internal and external at the same time) orgasm which tends to leave you shaking, unable to walk.. or think for a while! (think deep stick postion with extra clitoral stimulation from you or your man)Hope this helps and please ignore the judgmental responses you have so far received from the highly undersexed!
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reader, chigirl +, writes (13 April 2013):
" Is it possible for a female to absolutely require both in order to orgasm"Apparently, as that is what works for you. Really, I don't see a need to classify this. If that's what works for you, then great. If you suddenly figure out that you can get there in other means too, then all the more power to you. But why label it, why separate "different" orgasms? It's not different orgasms, an orgasm is an orgasm. Sometimes they are felt stronger, other times they aren't as powerful, but an orgasm is still an orgasm. Don't try so hard to define it. "I suppose it would help if I knew the difference between what a vaginal or a clit orgasm feels like."They feel just like the orgasm you already get. They vary just the same. Some are strong, some are less strong. They all feel great. No different from the orgasms you're already having. An orgasm IS an orgasm, no matter the way you get there. Let me explain why I find your question weird. It's like you're asking me the best way to experience the mall. You want to go to the mall, and it's great to be there, but HOW you get there doesn't make the mall a different place. If you drive there by car, is the mall different? No. If you walk there by foot, it the mall different? No, but you're probably sweaty and tired from the walk... yet the mall is still the same. If you ride there by air balloon it's still the same mall! It's not an "air balloon mall" or "car mall" or "walking mall". It's the same mall, no matter how you got there. I'm worried about you saying something about excess blood though. What blood? You're not supposed to bleed, are you doing harm to yourself?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2013): Dear OP,I can have an orgasm from clitoral stimulation alone, but not from vaginal stimulation alone. So I can't tell the difference between the two. But I would say that my orgasms feel very different when I have them from masturbation or from sex with someone else, when I take more time or when I just make it fast. Sometimes I feel like it's a very concentrated feeling in my clitoris and my vagina, which starts to contract and release again, sometimes it feels warm and spreads through my body. Sometimes it even feels electrifying and a little uncomfortable, if my clit has been stimulated too roughly before. I also become very sensitive then and need a long break. I think you are normal and you shouldn't think so much about orgasms in terms of clitoral or vaginal, normal or unnormal. Everybody is very individual down there and prefers another kind of stimulation. Also, I think what makes you orgasm can change throughout your life.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (13 April 2013):
 Clit orgasm? Vaginal orgasm? Both are myths! Both originate in the clitoris which is the equivalent to the penis for a guy. Questions like this make me wish I lived in Freud's time (the one who started the stupid myth in the first place) so I could beat him senseless and ask him whether or not shoving a 2x4 up his ass gives him a much more mature orgasm.
There's no difference! You could stimulate your clit through your vagine, but it's still the nerve endings that resonate through your clitoris that causes the orgasm.
Oh how I wish you could shake free of the oppression Freud causes, and see that pleasure is pleasure no matter how or why or what.
Seriously. There is no "clit" and "vag" difference. An orgasm is an orgasm, and Freud felt that only a penis could create the "mature orgasm". The sooner you ditch the stupid labels, the much more happier you will be!
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reader, person12345 +, writes (13 April 2013):
 Sure why not? There's no correct way to have an orgasm. Some women need nipple stimulation or to hold their leg in a certain way or have a breathing pattern to orgasm. Just so long as you know what works for you, it isn't really important if it's normal or not.
There's no such thing as a vaginal orgasm, they are all clitoral orgasms. Freud was the one who perpetuated that thing that there is a correct (vaginal) and incorrect (clitoral) orgasm, but they are all the same orgasm. Everyone's orgasm feels different. Some women feel it all over their body while some just feel it very locally.
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