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writes:Why can't I orgasm with a vibrator? I've tried many times but the omnly way I can reach orgasm is by rubbing my clit with my legs together, making orgasm during sex impossible for me. Help :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2010): I'm probably not as much help, being a male responder. But, I would say that you and your husband (or partner...guess I'm old fashioned) should just keep experimenting. I can't imagine a guy not enjoying the experimental process here. My wife won't even try a vibrator or masturbation, but has wonderful orgasms from me orally stimulating her, and occasionally from intercourse. Obviously different things work for different people, and the only way to figure out what works for you is to experiment. (And we change over time, so things that didn't work in the past might work in the future.) Have fun learning.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2010): I used to only be able to orgasm from touching my clit a certain way.... it was the first way I ever orgasmed. What I have learned over the years is that you do actually need to 'learn" other ways to cum.
Do you have a good vibrator with a clit tickler? or just a standard one? The really good ones swirl around inside you whilst they give you several different vibrating options directly on your clit.
If you are like me you will need to change up the vibration types a bit... so one type will be great for a while then I will need something else... and then boom!
IT is great to use a vibrator like this as it does start to get you feeling the connection between your g spot ( inside) and your clit. Only when you are really aroused does your G spot really feel great.
SO as for sex. Could I suggest you get your man to do you doggie style whilst you masturbate? He will love it and you will find you get some amazing pleasure out of it. YOu may even find you have your first double orgasm..clit and deep vaginal.. it is fabulous! Once you can do that, well there are heaps more options for sex.
Also, does your boyfriend go down on you? (Give you oral pleasure)? This can be a fantastic way to move from you pleasuring yourself to him being able to do it. Encourage him, help him understand what feels good or if you want it slower or faster... and remember that it is always faster and more efficient to do it yourself but you need to slow down and just enjoy every sensation when you are with someone else. They can make you feel things you will never be able to do for yourself but you have to be willing to relax and let it happen slowly... and help them of course.
Oh, if only I had more time... I would love to tell you more. I hope you have so much fun learning and exploring.
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reader, Oregongrl1 +, writes (11 August 2010):
try also massageing your nipples at the same time? put like a warm lotion on them. close your eyes and vision this handsome man on the beach tall dark tan of a shadow in his b-day suit coming close to you as you hold each others gaze and hes approaching closer and closer and you are nervous and excited at the same time as he leans over you?????
Let me Know!
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