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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I am in a very messy situation. I am 17 years old and I have been with my boyfriend for 2.5 years. We have an 11 month old daughter together. He is violent. (Name calling, put downs, death threats, pushed me, broken things) for the past 18 months he has been like this. It is getting worse because now he is taking his anger out my my Mother and Brother all in the presence of our daughter. I realise this is NOT healthy and I need to escape, that is DIFFICULT as he lives with myself and my family. My other problem is, financially he is the only person keeping a roof over all of our heads. My mum is trying to get work and is not getting anywhere. I am currently studying and job searching but i am not getting too far because of my lack of education. I am 17 years old living a very messed up adult life. I have worries about the violence, worrying about whether i will have enough money to feed and clothe my daughter, worrying whether or not we will lose the house or not and trying my hardest to keep everyone happy and not fighting. I can't relax. Everyone is always looking for a fight with one another and i am trying to pacify everyone and it works for a bit, then theres a big bust up. I almost want to run away, but due to my age i can't get a flat and i dont want to leave my mum in a worse situation financially. I am so confused it's sending me mad.
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reader, The B man  +, writes (13 July 2010):
 This is a very complex situation and im so sorry you have to go through this. What you might be able to try to do is maybe move in with a close friend, if only for even just a few months, and from there go to court and get him to pay child support, which can go to your mother to help with the house and to help support the baby. Im sure you can win the custady case(he might not even fight for it), and after awhile move back in with your mom since your boyfriend should be gone.
Hope I helped
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