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writes:Recently, I got an American girl interested in me on dating site. She is 31 and half ,I'm 32. She added me on msn messenger and we also talked over the phone once. I expressed my feelings for her and she didn't say loves me but told me that she had sexual feelings for me and used to be very sweet about other things as well. Ever, since we talked over the phone last Sunday, her attitude got changed and when I asked her that are you breaking up with me? She replied saying "Your intensity is a bit much for me. You have never even met me so you need to dial it back" I don't what does dial it back means? But I used to never message here that much. But I did express my feelings for her and I'm wondering if that got everything wrong in her head? She is slightly overweight but still she is so beautiful and she shown me so much dreams that this sudden change in her attitude is too much for me and I can't stop crying when I see at her picture? So many guys cheated her in the past and despite I was so sincerely , why I got this shit from her side? Why people can't digest even nice people as well? Should I stop contacting her for a while and then try? Now I feel I should also become a jerk and cheat on girls as they like Jerk and who plays mind games to make girls run after them. Please guys tell me what should I do, I can't get over her!
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reader, Miamine  +, writes (11 March 2012):
 "Dial it back".. she means back off and go slower, you are making her scared with all this talk of love. She doesn't know you and you don't know her, it's just as if you go up to a strange woman in the street and ask her to marry you.
You've only talked on the phone once, you've never met her. But suddenly your in love. Quick to fall in love, quick to fall out of love is the saying. Men who are dangerous also fall in love quickly, that is why she is scared and nervous.
I really don't think you should contact this girl again. You are getting obsessive over someone you don't really know, and that is what is worrying her.
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reader, mizz.butterflies  +, writes (11 March 2012):
 I can't stop crying when I see at her picture? = ReallY? SERIOUSLY?/
Do some background research on WESTERN women. You cant expect an american woman to act in the same manner a pakistani girl does. there are significant differences that need to be addressed. Obviously, you put too much pressure on her by acting way too interested and needy. You need to learn how to play it COOL .... Watch american movies. Be like George Clooney. Good luck. You have a long way to go
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