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26-29,
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writes:Hi....so I need some relationship help. :/ as you can see, I'm not very old and our relationship isn't sexual. I was interested in this guy for about half a year before he asked me out. And when he did I was over the moon! We have been going out for a year now, which is long compared to the two weeks people of our age 'go out' and we were really happy. But lately it has fizzled out. I know that happens in a relationship, the lust goes and it changes. So we gotta make an effort to stay together....but we aren't. My gut is kinda whispering to me to end it but my head is screaming over the top. But I don't know what it's screaming it's so confused! We used to talk every night online and have a long chat about our day... He barely turns up any more and when he does we can't think of a lot to say. Whilst with a guy friend I have we could talk for hours. We don't go out much any more and I recently noticed he never has me round his house. Ever! He always suggests coming round mine! And our relationship just goes "hug at break, after school. Go home and then maybe chat" he likes the routine I think. I don't. But then I'm not sure my hearts in it anymore to bother making things exciting. He lives far away so he can't come round mine easily. He just seems more like a friend....he is a lovely guy and I like him......but the way we both have been acting and how he constantly says I love you makes me worry he's trying reassure me. And himself. Also we havent kissed on the lips yet. Hes all talk and no do, he talks and talks and tries to make me, but never does himself. For a couple of weeks i didnt hug him as much and wanted to see if he would make an effort to. He didn't. He just said he feels ignored. But how do I feel when I don't make an effort nothing happens? And I was saying about this guy friend.....he's a great mate to me and I can open up to him and adore his company. Shouldn't I feel the same way with my boyfriend? Lately I have been feeling really depressed and not wanted in my own home. I could tell my friend but not my bf. I keep the pain from him. So is it time to end? Do YOU go with your gut? Should I? I don't know if I can bring myself to......it's been so long since I wasn't with him I can't imagine without..... Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2012): Asker: I just....how? It'll be weird without him and what if I have made the wrong decision?!!!! ....this is killing me :(
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reader, Jingles  +, writes (11 March 2012):
Hi, I think you should always go with your gut even if your heart doesn't want to hear it. It shouldn't be this hard if it is the right place for you to be. I was told one time the following: If the answer isn't yes, then the answer is NO. Wow that is hard to swallow, but that is one way to make decisions much easier no matter what the question is. There is NO middle ground. You will be surprised to find what happens next is a healthier you. You cannot change anyone but yourself; anyone. Keep looking for what your heart and your gut want to be happy and remember, if the answer isn't yes; what is it? And be Happy
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