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writes:"OPs own title"I decided to try the online dating. However, I am encountering the same problem over and over and wanted to know how others deal with it.The problem is about the amount of time taken by someone to reply. For example, this guy messaged me first and I replied to him within the same day. In my reply, I included 2-3 general questions about him. It took him 3 days to reply and when he did reply, he answered the questions about himself, but did not ask me any questions back. In the mean time, he was online at that website multiple times, which means that he deliberately ignored replying to me. I know about the "3-day rule", but should I also take 3 days to reply to him? He ended his message with "well, now I gotta get back to work, enjoy your weekend." This is one guy of the many who message me that I am actually interested in. So I have two questions:1) If someone takes long time to reply, should you take the same amount of time or longer/shorter to reply to them back?2)Given that he did not ask any particular questions in his reply, should I even bother replying. Reply to this Question
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 I dunno, but if it was me... if they can't be bothered to reply or ask questions/be interested in ME, then I don't bother either.Lots of boring guys you've run into, best of luck! Im sure someone more fun and interesting will come around.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 As Ask oldersister said, online dating takes patience. It is getting more and more common for people to meet today on the internet and even have a future together, but it's not usually a quick process. It takes patience to sift through the "junk" out there. You will know right away if someone is worth talking to because they will do exactly the opposite of what you are complaining about. Somebody interested and worth while will ask just as many questions as you are to get to know you.The internet dating scene is made up of 3 parts: First are players and guys just looking for sex. The second is good, respectable people just wanting to meet someone. Third, are people who's standards are just way too high, and they end up staying on dating websites for too long. Again, you've gotta be patient and eventually you will find somebody who is interested in talking to you.
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reader, RyanS  +, writes (21 May 2010):
 (1) Keep it simple. A guy who does not reply to you in a time frame that you find satisfactory, is not good for you, because your styles don't match. I also don't believe we should play hard to get (in love and business) so that has filtered many people from my life in the easiest way! You can do the same.(2) Not every guy is knows online dating, that he should as a question in his reply mail. I think in this case, his communication abilities are weaker than yours and his interest in you is less. Once again, not a good sign. Filter him out unless he looks like a shy but solid guy.P.S. Online dating is one of the best things to happen in this century. I met my gf that way and we were in different countries at that time. So there was no way I could have bumped into her in the local cafe or something like that.
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