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writes:"OP's OWN TITLE"Ok so I have been in a realtionship for over three years, and my girlfriend always playes these mind games, and hold our relationship over my head. she consistantly tells me that i am sooooooo mean to her, aqnd that all I do is walk away, so on and so fourth. there are times where she gets noy only verbaly abusive.... but outright distcusting. she has no nidea of what life is. like for example, she gets up in the morning, does not say one word to me, when I go to say "goodmorning sweetheart" she flys off the handle and calls me all sorts of mean horable things, then twenty minutes later she want to use my car, and money to go get he nails done. I have completly supported her finacualy and mently for the last three years, even threw bothof my parents dieng in less than a year, and all she has done is get me arrested for false accusations, twice...... none the less. and called me a fag, hommo, worthless, stupid and the list goes on and on and on. I love this woman with all my heart, and will continue to. my parrent loved one another for almost 50 years. they raised me with the same love and compassion that they had for each other. she grew up in a trailer, with a alcaholic dad and old druggie mom, who has completly lost her god given mind...... I'm at a loss, and dont know wht to do. I've done houres upon houres of reserch, read books, online tests and books(via internet) and tetorials, testimints.......... and any other type of getting info you can think off. just resently I've got her to say that she is at fault for the fights, and the d.v. (dommistic violance) charges that i;m faceing. but she will not seek profesional help that we so desartly need. i have offerd to go with her, and manny other kind ways of putting it. I;m feed up. Any ideas? any thing i might not of considerd? thaught of? or someone I might not hve talked to? Help.
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reader, Jen1689 +, writes (21 May 2010):
 I don't know how you can possible think that you "love" a person who treats you like shit. If you loved her, you would love yourself, and you would NOT let her disrespect you like that. Just because your parents were happily married for fifty years does not mean that you have to stay in this "relationship" as a duty, or something. YOU'RE NOT HAPPY, and obviously neither is she. She needs help, and I'm sorry, but it's not your job to give it to her.My boyfriend dated a girl exactly like yours before we met. She was manipulative, irresponsible, immature, irrational, and got into a TON of trouble. She was big into drugs and alcohol from a young age, and her and my boyfriend constantly fought and broke up, then got back together. She cheated on him and lied to him on a daily basis. She belittled him constantly, saying that she was the best he was going to get. Wrong. Since my boyfriend and I have been dating (a year and a half), we've had maybe a total of five arguments, but they were easily resolved, and they've just brought us closer together. I'm insecure with myself, sure, but I do love my boyfriend more than anything, and I would never belittle him. He is the most beautiful human being on this earth. I am so lucky to have him. We have the most fun together, and we strongly enjoy each others' company.The girl you're with in insecure, and knows that, at ANY time, you could easily find better. So she belittles you to the point where you don't think you can. Believe me, when people want something, they will find a way to get it, especially if it means fucking with other people's emotions. We are all so gullible. If she won't seek help, then please, leave. For your own sanity and health, get out of this. You can find so much better, and find someone who LOVES you, not someone who manipulates your feelings. You can be happy, and be with your woman for fifty years. You just have to take the right steps to find her.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (21 May 2010):
 There's a huge difference between you and your parents. Your parents were MARRIED. You are not married to this girl. I may be in the minority here, but I'm thinking that BOTH of you need professional help. You need to get away from her. You can not change her or "save" her, and her upbringing is no excuse.
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reader, raiders +, writes (21 May 2010):
 Your are going through a difficult time, and the best you can you is get her some help. There is obviously something wrong with her and maybe with a psychiatrist and with medication she will be able to balance her mood change..Good luck!
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