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writes:Well, my girlfriend and I broke up about 8 months ago now. It was for the best, and while I've enjoyed my solitude again, I'm beginning to get lonely. The problem is, I'm not sure where to meet people. Sure there are the bars, but I would prefer to avoid them. I'm not religious, so church is out. Most of the volunteer organizations I belong to are made up primarily of older people. There are the girls around the office, but I'd prefer to not "$h!t where I eat" so to speak. I know, hopeless. Since this is the case, the only avenue that I can think of is online dating. I have never done this before, and am curious if anyone has any input about it for their experiences.Any input is welcomed. Horror and success stories alike. If anyone has a preferred method, I'd love to hear about it too. Craigslist, eharmony, match, etc...
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reader, Universe Man +, writes (25 June 2010):
I have used both okcupid.com and match.com. Both had a fair number of attractive women and a whole bunch of unattractive ones. I only actually met a few girls and never had much luck with any of them. Your mileage may vary.OKcupid.com is basically free with extra options for subscribing. The site is extremely well-designed, honestly one of the best on the web. Because it's free and because it has a lot of personality-quiz type stuff, a lot of girls are on there just for fun or attention or chitchat and are not eager to actually meet men.Match is fairly expensive and is not so well designed, except for how it's designed to get people to spend their money. Note that you can have a profile on Match without paying any money, but you can neither send messages nor read messages received without a subscription. So you browse through the women and you can't tell which are subscribers and will be able to read your message. You send a message. You get no reply. Is she a subscriber who is not interested, or an interested person who doesn't want to part with her money to read/reply? No way of knowing. Because Match is expensive, the women there are motivated. Lots of late-twenties/early-thirties women who hear their biological clocks ticking are actually initiating contact with men, although in my experience they may still be reluctant to actually meet.Craigslist: If they weigh 300 pounds, they are for real. If they are pretty, it's spam/scam. I wouldn't bother.eHarmony: Specifically not designed for casual dating. They want to help you find your soulmate. I've never used it, but I find the idea a bit creepy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 June 2010): All these places that u listed are legitimate places to meet girls. At work it's not that bad at all, why u think you will necessasary sh...t, where you eat?lol.Bars:you more likely to meet a woman under influence of alkogol, but there are some really nice women who go to bars.I never went on on line dating. But this is what i heard:some of my friends actually meet their husbands, wives; it's a long dating process w/many, many bad dates before u find someone u like. So ,it'r really up to u, if u r up to it to spend so much time and effort.
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