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writes:Im 20. As part of my university degree I'm studying abroad at a Spanish language school. One of the teachers there has a crush on me, strong enough for all the students to notice. I'm genuinely attracted to her and last Saturday we were dancing pretty sexually and kissed.After a while I guess perhaps she realized the possible consequences and after a long chat said we couldn't be together though she wanted to. Since then she's messaged me here and there and has invited me out to a few events. All of which makes me thinks she's still pretty interested but just wanted to wait to be sure Anyway, I have no idea really. I don't want her to jeopardise her job but more than anything I want to pursue a relationship with her because I know I'd regret not trying everything I could. Any advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2022): She is a predator. Plain and simple. If it was a male teacher pursuing a girl your age, it would be completely wrong. On all levels. Just because she is a woman pursuing a male does not make it any less wrong. She should be fired from her job and go get some therapy. She is pretty fucked up. And I truly hope young man that you do not let her fuck you up too. Nothing will come of this. Only her messing you around. Focus on your studies, and girls your age. She is trouble! Clearly she does this with many other men!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2022): It appears her hormones overrule her common sense. If other students notice, they will also inform the head of the faculty; because you can't be impartial, or grade fairly. Not when you're fooling-around with your students. It also violates ethics codes, and sets the learning institution up for legal liability.
Go-ahead, seems she doesn't need her job; and doesn't mind scandal. One bad-grade, and that student is going to blow the whistle. If you score a good grade in her class, everyone will attribute it to the teacher's bias. It's best the school doesn't keep that kind of professor on their payroll.
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reader, QueenCupcake  +, writes (9 February 2022):
 I’m not going to comment on her lack of professionalism or the fact that she’s crossing the Teacher-Student relationship boundaries, as I’m sure you’re quite aware of this already.
But if she likes you as much as you think she does, and you like her, then there’s no harm in waiting until you finished your qualifications and or no longer a student, right?
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reader, kenny +, writes (8 February 2022):
 I suprised that a teacher that is working in a professional environment where a strict teacher/student dating policy would surely be enforced is persuing a student.
I also find it hard to believe that she is doing this so that other students have noticed. this is unprofessional and stupid, and she should no better.
She could ultimately lose her job there as a teacher, and worse that than that it could also be the end of her teaching career altogether.
It should be her deploying the responsible role not you. So all i am going to say is while you are still a student there refrain from seeing her altogether outside of campus.
Maybe when you have finished qualification then see if you still have the same feelings at that time.
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