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anonymous
writes:I've always had this secret crush on a friend of mine but it was just childish. hes now 24 and im 19 and he has just split up with his girlfriend. i was there for him as a friend in the beginning and now it has esculated that he is physically attracted to me. the problem is that i have a boyfriend and have been with him for nearly two years! i dont want to throw that away on a one night thing with this guy, i dont really wanna cheat because ive had it done to me and it isnt nice but wen im with this other guy, even in a social situation, we cant resist each other. the thing is, my boyfriend is good friends with the guy and plays in the same sports team as him! there would only be me and him who know if we did anythin but id have a dark cloud over my head! its either keep what ive got and carry on, trying to resist each other, or cheat and have to live with the guilt. my boyfriend would never find out because he works early mornings until late nights but i think that if i did cheat then it would play on my consceince and id end up telling him......i need help!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Cheating is not cool. It hurts everyone and the one who you will cheat for will know you are a cheater and will prolly not trust you.
Dear just chose a guy and go steady with him. Think for yourself which you like more and stick with that. If you like the other then break up with the other accordingly. Seems hard but its a way much better choice than following a path of cheating.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Really? I don't really think you need help.
We all know that cheating is wrong.
You know that cheating is wrong.
I know it's wrong.
The aunts and uncles on this site know its wrong.
and the people come on here saying "how do i live with the guilt of cheating" know it's wrong.
My question is.. if you KNOW it's wrong, and it's not too late to not make the mistake, then what is YOUR question really?
Because surely it's not "should I cheat."
Becuase WE ALL know.. that cheating is wrong.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 June 2009): Cheating is NEVER okay, period. I don't care if you're with a jerk and you've found your soulmate, sneaking around, lying, and cheating are NOT good. You either need to resist the temptation and stay with your boyfriend (there will always be temptation and if you can't resist it just because someone attractive and nice who flirts with you comes along you're not ready to be in a relationship) or you need to make the decision to dump your boyfriend and be with this other person (I don't recommend this at all). If the temptation is too much, just stay away from the other guy! If you've been with your boyfriend for two years, there must be something there between you two and you'll regret it for hooking up with someone you had a crush on a long ways back.
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