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writes:hii have a problem with my friends, see ive hung around with three other lads for the past three yrs, and i am strating to feel distant from my friends, because one lad in my group has started to turn my friends against me by making comments about me. see he always comments on everyone, but thats just him, but now with me hes going too far and all my friends are starting to join in. you might say my friends are loudsy but there not and when someelse in the class or year. think lots of people dont like ya, they dont talk to ya because its not cool. its not isolation or anything. its just awkward, ive been there before myself. and if you tell me to give the lad whose making commets a hint, he will just get worse. hes not a bully or anything, its just the way he is and its not like i dont want to hang around with the lad whos making comments because i do. hes actually good to be around when hes not making comments. so what do i do because i feel soon i well have no friends, and not because they dont like me.. because of these comments. help me please !! Reply to this Question
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be  +, writes (23 September 2008):
 You could go three ways here: you could go the high road and ignore him till he stops. You could take the mature option and have a quiet word with him as a friend when he isnt making comments. You could go really immature, shout and scream, then fall out with him. Or you could go petty and make comments about him.
There is a dangerous risk of falling off the high road: it probably wont work. Dont ignore him.
Going immature is a really immature thing to do. Not to mention stupid. Yelling will create more problems than it will solve. So keep your voice down.
Going petty might work; it could redeem you in the eyes of the other two, but might cause a rift between you and him. Dont do that unless you're sure he understands that "from now on, he gets as good as he gives."
The mature route, however, may be your best bet. When he's ain a non-commenty mood, just take him aside and say, as a friend, you'd appreciate it if he'd stop saying all this rubbish about you. If he takes you seriously, then thumbs-up for both of you. If he laughs in your face, then he's probably not as good a friend as he seems. THAT would be a more appropriate time to go petty, and insult him right back. Dont overdo it, though. That could end nastily.
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reader, Ask Aimee +, writes (23 September 2008):
Hi . . .
i have red ur problem yes its a problem and i have been in ur shoes before it soem times hard and upsetting i no.
but if ur friends are like that then u kinda have 3 options ether laugh about it with them ,
or go and find other friends because they arn't truly ur friends if there doing that to you . . .
or talk to your friends about it just you and your friend thats what i would do to be honest with you good look hope things work out for you x
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