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writes:A man who I met 3-4 years ago (in a work-related context) has been consistently flirtatious and very friendly towards me. He texts me several times each week and calls me from time to time to have a chat. At first our conversations would always begin with work topics and then we would move onto other things, mostly events taking place in our lives, but now we hardly ever talk about work. Our paths cross occasionally in the workplace and we have very animated and enjoyable conversations that last for hours as though time stands still. He also laughs like a hyena at every joke I crack and probably vice versa. More recently he has started adding X's to the end of all his texts and hugs me tightly and kisses my hair or cheek when we part company after one of our workplace meetings (but only when we are both aware that noone else is around). Although I'm fairly convinced that we share a mutual attraction (I admit I'm as besotted with him as the first day I met him), I'm wondering whether he's 'building up' to making a pass and kissing me passionately one day soon! I'm desperate to know if he's simply enjoying a discreet flirtation or if he wants a more involving relationship. I know I probably sound naive but the situation is is actually a complex one ... we are both married, and we seem to have adopted an unspoken code of conduct whereby we go to efforts to maintain discretion about our behaviour. Given his behaviour and how long his interest in me has been sustained, is he likely to to move our flirty friendship into a full-blown affair?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 October 2008): A similar thing is happening to me at the moment. I am seperated, I think he is taken. We met and flirted, I couldn't take my eyes off him. The flirtation lasted a little while but when I asked him if he was gonna ask me out, he backed off. He said he didn't want to hurt me. I am besotted with this man because I know he is attracted to me. I sound like a young girl, but I am, in fact, almost 40 years old. My advice would be to ask him where he thinks your friendship is going. The direct approach is always better for me. Once you know for sure, you can plan your next course of action. Good luck sweety xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 October 2008): i am in a work relationship that started much like yours except i am not married. now, we have had sex several times. i justified it by saying it's a mutual attraction and neither one of us wants to be with the other...he doesn't plan on leaving his wife and i don't want him to.i am newly single and don't want a relationship...but alas, i can feel myself wanting more from him and this can't be. he has a family, as do i...my ex and i have a young son... anyways, nip it in the bud before you want more because you both have to work on your marriages...both of you separately
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 September 2008): Whatever he's building up to forget it!!!!! Run, don't walk away from this. I've been through this very same thing, it didn't end in a sexual affair, just a broken heart and a lost friendship. This man is more than likely doing this for the thrill or the ego boost. The man I work with told me I was his "soulmate", that we were made for each other. He was sweet and kind and thoughtful, all the things my husband isn't. He complained about his wife constantly. He says he never led me on, but he did. Anyway, all I'm saying is do yourself a favor, end this now before you end up feeling like I do. I'm going to have leave a job that I really love because he's not going anywhere and I can't stand the sight of him. He still wants to be friends, and can't understand why I'm so angry with him because he hasn't done anything. He says he doesn't want to hurt anyone...does that mean that I'm a nobody!! This will not end well, please stop it now.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 September 2008): i would think very carefuly before you do something that could destroy 2 marriages and 2 families for a lifetime
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