Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): I know exactly what you mean - and it can be very hard to understand guys when they behave like this.
It is always best to be poitive and confident about yourself as this will make you more attractive. Showing him that you care about him is important- but don't show him that you really really like him or he will feel as though he has the upper hand and that he can treat you as he likes.
Get on with your life keeping him at arms length, and wait for him to ask you out. If he does - fantastic- if he doesn't - it is his loss not yours- you are fabulous he is pathetic.
Sorry to be so blunt but there are so many men out there that will love you and not be afraid to tell you - so why put all your energy into one that makes you so confused.
Hope that everything works out; if not with this guy then have faith that this change will lead you to your true prince charming.
A
female
reader, Annabella  +, writes (15 November 2007):
I know exactly what you mean - and it can be very hard to understand guys when they behave like this. I am just as confused as I have a very similar situation with a guy I know.
It is always best to be poitive and confident about yourself as this will make you more attractive. Showing him that you care about him is important-a simple smile can be just enough. Get on with your life and wait for him to ask you out. If he does - fantastic- if he doesn't - it is his loss not yours- you are fabulous he is pathetic. Sorry to be sor blunt but there are so many men out there that will love you and not be afraid to tell you - so why put all your energy into one that makes you so confused.
...............................
A
female
reader, anonymous, writes (24 June 2007): Well i very well understand what you are saying cuz i face this problem a lot of times too. if you realy like him and you have a feeling that he likes you too but his acts are nor right sometimes which makes you very upset then you have to think and find out if you can ever "forgive" that person. forgiving is a big thing but make sure there are two parts to it. if you really like this guy ..may be you can forgive him for the person he is but do not forgive him for the acts he does. So make sure you talk to him about it. by forgiving him you will give him some chance to improve himself and his acts and may be that will help. I dont know thats what i am doing and i thought i should share this with you.
...............................
A
female
reader, jgirl1 +, writes (30 April 2006):
Just speak to him and ask him why he is ignoring you, whatever answer he gives just go along with it and then if he keeps ignoring you just ignore him back.If he really wants to ingore you he will carry on but if he wants you he will come crawling back!
...............................
A
female
reader, Country Woman +, writes (30 April 2006):
 How much does Danny know about you? Have you ever dropped the hints that you are interested in him?
Seems to me that when you started to get close and you stopped talking to him you gave out all the signals that you were not interested in him so I'm not so sure that he is messing you about but he could well be confused over your feelings for him.
If you have however tried to do things on a subtle basis then I think it is time for you to spell things out to him.
Do you know if he is single or not?
If he is, then why not suggest going out for a drink or something? See what his response is.
You may have to do more of the running as when he did come forward and you got scared he may not want to try to do it again as he may feel that he doesn't want to be rejected again and it may be down to you to do the running.
What scared you btw?
If you like him and he appears to like you why are you holding back as he could well get snapped up by another girl who is not so shy and you would end up kicking yourself for not being more confident. He could easily be extremely flattered when you approach him as every man likes a female to show interest.
Life is for the living and even though it may scare you to death to ask him out a simple drink is not too bad really.
Be brave, confident and positive as wasting time not knowing has got to be worse than taking the plunge.
Let me know how it goes eh!!
You can keep talking to the Aunts/Uncles on here as we are all here to try and help in any small way OK.
BFN
...............................
A
female
reader, Angel_A +, writes (30 April 2006):
 It's really hard to care so strongly about someone when they don't seem to reciprocate - but unfortunately it does sound like this lad is just using you when you're around. Ask yourself, does he make you feel special? does he make you feel wanted? do you feel insecure around him and on best behaviour when you see him?Maybe you could step back for a bit and be really strong to see if he realises what he may lose unless he starts treating you with some respect and kindness?Good luck honey xxx
...............................
A
female
reader, *NiC* +, writes (30 April 2006):
I think that you need to have some time to talk to each other then maybe some time apart to think about things, if he really likes you he will repect your wishes and give it time. If not then he's not worth it hun!
...............................
| 