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writes:Once you fall in love with a good friend, can you ever look at him in a different way?We are good friends but he is unavailable. If we remain friends, will I ever be able to see him just as a friend eventually or will I always have strong feelings for him? What is your experience? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): I think the best way for all relationships to start is by being friends first. But, often when we go out with someone and it ends then the friendship is lost forever. So you have to ask yourself just what you want. If you do have a relationship then who is to say that it is going to end badly? We all have to take chances in life.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (15 October 2007):
 I don't think you should really be calling him a friend. What might have began as a friendship has become something else. At this point he is a love interest and that is how you see him.
Everything depends on your nature. You've allowed yourself to become stuck in a spot that is not really enviable. If you truly care for him, and he's unaware of your feelings, leave him alone to his partner. That is who he loves.
Over time you will meet someone else and the feelings will fade. You have to have integrity and do the appropriate thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 October 2007): i just think that the more you see him the deeper you fall. how would you control this? have you lots in common? can you talk? does he know how you feel? are you friends with his girlfriend? it really is a hard one. i was in that position 4 years ago. if you want him this much, yet he's with someone is to respect him for the position he is in. mates are more solid than lovers. hang back
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