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writes:Hello again, I'm 15, I have been speaking to a girl over instant-messager for just about a year now, I've always found her attractive (seen pictures and webcam) and she has a amazing personality. We have spoken of sex and we share fantasy's with eachother. I have never met her before because we are quite a distance from eachother. She is coming down this weekend (not something that will happen often) and I just want to pose the question, should I "show" that I am sexually attracted to her or not? Because to me, this seems like a once in a life time oppurtunity to see her and I want to make the most out of it.[Added]She live's about 75 miles away from me and we have never met. I don't know whether or not I should actually try anything on with her or not, what do you think? I mean I will go with whatever she feels. Reply to this Question
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reader, mandaxboo  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 you should totally go for what ever you two feel is rite. personally i would go for it. It could be a once and a life time oppertunity.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 January 2008): If you've known her for quite some time & seen her on webcam then go for it.
What could possibly go wrong?
If you feel sexually attracted to her, See how it goes on the day. Things might be diffrent when you meet just take things slow. Dont rush into anything you might regret
Let us know how you got on
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reader, Moviefan  +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Yeah i dont know if its a good idea for someone your age to be already having sex if you mean full fledged sex. I dont mean that you have to wait for marraige or anything i just know 15 year person can not handle the effects of having sex that can happen. If you get her pregnant you wont be able to help her with the kid financially and she wont be prepared if she has to take care of it at her age. And most people your age are not emotionally ready either. I cant stop u but i dont recomend it.
If you really think you know her once she gets to where you live and she seems to be the same person you were talking to. But if anything odd happens to make you question how you feel about her stop there. And its ok t tell her that you find her attractive and what not its shouldnt hurt anything. And then thats when you want to maybe try something with her but you have to realixe that this could cause strain on your relationship if you do not plan on being her boyfriend and commit and just have a one night stand with her then just being friends, some girls do not like being a "friend with benefits".
AND MAKE SURE SHE WANTS TO DO IT AND YOU NOT PRESSURING HER AND MAKING HER FEEL LIKE SHE HAS TO GIVE HER THE CHOICE BY NOT BRINGING IT UP AND WAITING FOR HER TO OR, JUST LIGHTLY BRING UP THE IDEA.IF SHE SAYS NO DONT PUSH IT.
And if she is one of these you will hurt her. But if she is one who likes the whole friends with benefits idea then you are just having sex with no garuntees and comitment and is that ok with you. And im guessing you are a virgin, do you really want you first time to be like this.
Maybe if you decide to do anything you should just do foreplay which cant easily get her pregnant but makes you both feel good and both of you will remain virgins in a physical sense.
As long as you dont finger her right after masturbating or after contacting sperm somehow, this gos for her coming in contact with sperm as well, if she touches herself it could happen.
But on a last not if you and her decide to do something make sure that you use protection and some spermicidal lube that will drop the chances of anything happening. And you never know once she gets here she may not really want to do anything like that even if she has hinted to it or something. So dont be suprised if nothing happens.
Good Luck, I hope everything works out for the better and you make the right decisions.
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reader, burningstar +, writes (28 January 2008):
 personally i think that, well because I'm a girl, that she would rather you let her know what you feel about her and the thing is that other guy is right you never want a woman leaving you thinking that you just wanted her for the sex ans not her, and her personality, why don't you see if she feel the same way or see if she makes a move on you first, talkj to her about how you feel then work things out, i wouldn't do anything weird like a candle lit dinner yet either it might freak her out....
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reader, kenny +, writes (28 January 2008):
 Personally i would refrain from making sexual advances at this early stage. When she comes down be a gentleman, show her a good time and don't let her go back home thinking that the only thing you want is her body. See how you get on, if it goes well then brilliant. Next time you see her take it abit further, the the time after that abit further. Don't rush anything, let things happen slowly and naturally, and remember good things come to those who wait.
Hope it goes well
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