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writes: Hi, im a 34 year old married woman. For the past 3 years I am living with my son alone as my husband works in a different city. Recently, a young 20 year old guy moved to my neighborhood. We would occasionally bump into each other and he started talking to me and introduced himself. I did not listen much to him and would kinda ignore him. Couple of weeks ago, my son met with a accident and he took him to the hospital while I was at work. He took care of everything and then called me. After that day, we became friends. He would always help me and I would invite him over for lunch/dinner. As I was alone and liked his company, we started talking a lot, if not on the phone then on chat. Talking to each other was a routine. My son also enjoyed his company.On his birthday he invited me for dinner, I initially refused, but he kinda emotionally blackmailed me to have dinner with him. I dint think it would be a date, I just thought it would just be like having dinner with a friend. But he treated it as a date. He complimented me,pampered me and made me feel great about myself. He looked at me very differently and it made me conscious. A couple of times I caught him looking at my breasts and I asked him not to. He said he couldnt help it, as I am looking very attractive and he thinks I have great breast. After the dinner I told him I enjoyed the dinner very much, I had a good time. He then asked me so when are we going on our next date. I told him this was not a date, and he said it was. He said lets go for a movie and then dinner, next week. He told me he liked me very much. I told him i am older than him and that I am married and have a kid. I told him he is a nice guy he should look for someone his age.And I refused his invitation for the movie. When we reached home and were alone in the elevator and he kissed me. I was so shocked i dint know what to do, when I got back to my senses, his hands was on my breasts. I slapped him and pushed him away, got off and after that din't talk to him for a couple of days. After that incident, he would call me and i would not even pick his call. A couple of days later he catches me online and apologized. He said he was sorry and he said my beauty made him lose his senses. He told me he has been sick for the past 2 days. I felt sorry for him as he was alone and sick and had no one to take care of him. The next day, i went to meet him with some fruits and food, he wasnt well and i took him to the hospital. I dont know what came over me and I wanted to take care of him. I would meet him everyday and give him his medicines, food, before leaving and would meet him after I came and after giving dinner to my son, would come over and give him dinner. One day after giving dinner to my son, I went over to give him dinner. We had dinner together and While having dinner the electricity had gone off, and we literally bumped into each other. Before i knew it, he was on top of me, hands on my boobs and we were kissing. He took my clothes off and i could not stop him.I don't know how long the electricity was gone for. We were about to have sex when my son called me. He dint penetrate me ,my son kinda interupted me. He dint want me to leave and I told him i will be back later. I dressed hurriedly and left my undergarments at his place. Went back to my place with son. Later he called me and asked if she was coming over or he should come. I told him i will call him after my son had slept. The next day i took my son and went to my sister's place for a couple of days, so I could avoid him. He called me and asked me where i went, and i told him my sister was not well so i went to take care of her.He told me my undergarments reminds me of how we almost had sex. He is waiting for when we have sex as he cant get the picture of me naked out of his mind. He told me he wants to see my ****s again. He even asked me to come on a webcam so he can see me and remember how great body I have. I cant hide from him forever, i have to go back home soon and I know when I go back, I wont be able to refuse him. please help me.I am confused and dont know what I want. On one hand I am alone and lonely and I do want to have sex. On the other I don't wanna cheat with my husband, though I am sure he cheats on me( as he cant stay away from sex for such a long time). Plus the age difference also comes up. Is it ok to have sex with a 20 year old guy?Can someone please tell me what to do. Is it normal for women at my age to feel like this. Is it ok, if I just have sex with him.Also,As I havent have had sex with him or anyone else aside from my husband till now. Have I cheated or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2010): Acually you are honest with your husband. But in the mean time you are living alone and you are also beautiful. everybody likes you,that is why that boy is having keen interest in you. Under these circumstances you can not avoide you to going that boy and I think you have settle in mind to do sex with him . Only you are worried about your husband. No dout it is not good But it is the requrement of Body. So do it Be loyal to your huaband also.
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reader, happy140  +, writes (23 March 2010):
 I feel your pain, I truley do. The last answer is so MORALY correct-It really is-I'm in the same boat but I have to look at my beautiful wife everyday, clothed and naked, only to know that sex means a rain check--BEFORE I get bashed about showing love, commitment and all that-(married 30 years) we have to understand the difference in sex drives-which in itself creates SO MANY ISSUES-ANYONE who has been ASKED to take a viagra or Cialis and then given a rain check understands what I mean-Thats what I mean when I say I feel your pain-litterly-I sujust masterbation first (fantisies are good-some may say if you think of the twenty year old your cheating-I say crap-we all need a little extra sometimes)-let him know you don't want intercourse-DO NOT DO IT!!--masterbation in itself is not enough-we need to feel desired-flirting makes us feel that way-as long as we make our LIMITS CLEAR!-For me to see another female nude (such as a boob flash, downblouse, pantie flash, etc) gives me that sexual stress relielf when I masterbate-BUT it doesnot give me any emotional sexual satisfaction that is need with our spouses-I can J.O. in two quick emotionless minutes but when we finally do have sex it is such and emotional release that I end up in tears, good tears-My recomendation-tease , make boundtry clear, masterbate and enjoy your husband when he's home-some may think to look at others is cheating, how may of us go to the beach and keep blinders on?-Bodies are beautiful and should be seen as such, but never used as a replacement for those we are intimate with
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (23 March 2010):
You know sometimes, how it's like there's a sign you should and shouldn't do something? I think you've had your sign in your son calling you at the all important moment.
Don't do it.
Not because he's younger. Not because he's there. But because you're married and have no reason to throw that marriage away without fighting for it. If your marriage isn't working, then you must end it before you do anything else. If you want to save it, then you need to really try hard to save it.
This young guy represents only fun. Yes it's normal for you to want attention and want sex. Of course it is. But this has no love in it at all, and will ruin your marriage. Either work on the marriage, or end it. But don't have an affair, or you stand to lose everything.
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