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writes:Hello people,I was talking recently with my girlfriend about what she wants fot christmas. ( we have been together almost 3 years and at present are both 17) She said that she wants to marry me one day and that the ultimate christmas present for her would to get pregnant. I am scared by this but at the same time it would be good and she says it would make her truely happy.If she is happy I am happy. If this did happon she says that she has planned it all out and I will drop out of school and get a job to support her and the child, while she carrys on in school and goes to University to get a degree. ( she is more intelligent than what I am)Does anyone have any advice for me.Regards,
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reader, largentsgirl89  +, writes (27 November 2010):
 I know that most girls in young age think that having a baby is a wonderful thing, which it is, but when you are ready and in the right time of your lives.
I don't think reality shows like 16 and pregnant or teen moms are very realistic, they are on tv and they are telling me they are broke? Bullcrap.
Try being a 15 year old mother to be and your family kicks you out because you would get an abortion and now you have no one in the world. No family at all. How would that work? Girls do it everyday.
You and your girlfriend have been together for three years, which is a long time to be with just one person, so I think it's normal for her to want marriage and a family with you, but not right now.
In the future, when you both have careers and education to support your baby. So she or you can stay home with the baby, without having to worry about money being tight.
Having children is a huge responsibility and most people don't realize how big until they become parents themselves, its a lot different than babysitting a child where you can give the baby back after a certain amount of time.
Perhaps her list is just a wish list. Sit down and talk with her. Tell her that you feel that right now isn't the right time and you want to wait until you both are ready.
she should understand that. Good luck.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (27 November 2010):
 That would be a grand idea if you guys were say in your 20s and almost done with university..Right now at 17, not so much. She won't even be able to go to school with you bringing home the bacon. Who's going to watch the child while she goes to school and you're at work? Day care is ridiculously expensive..and whatever job you get won't bring much to the table. You may have to get on government aid to make ends meet. On top of getting married, you'll also have to shell out for the expenses of the baby..the hospital bills, diapers, clothing, formula, wipes. Where will you live, shacked up with her parents in the basement? In her head, it may make perfect sense but this is the real world.
Bottom line is wait till you are older, more mature, financially stable, finished with university, married, and have your own place then that would be the best time to get married and start a family. Right now you're too young.
I suggest getting her a puppy for Christmas instead.
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reader, fballfan +, writes (27 November 2010):
Lol........... wow ud be an idiot to drop out of school to support a baby ur not ready for. Maby if she got knocked up, but she's NOT! honestly what's the world coming to...
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