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writes:Hi, my ex and i hav been seperated for about a year and a half. He has been with other women and whenever he broke up with them he always ran back to me. At first i used to fall for it because i still loved him. Now i am wiser. The last time that he broke up with his lates girlfriend he came back telling me that he had made a mistake and that he wanted me back. He stayed the night and then afterwards he became distant again. He used me for sex. That was the last straw for me. Ever since then i have loathed him. He played on my love for him to use me to fullfill his own sellfish needs. Instantly i lost all respect for him and realised that i couldnt possibly be in love with some one who could use me like that. It was all a lie. Anyway he hasnt told his girlfriend that he spent the night with me wile they wer having a break. Even tho they werent together he still went behind her back because if she was the one he wanted then he shouldnt be sleeping with me. I feel like his dirty little secret and i believe that she has the right to know that he is a sneak and a liar. He would never tell the truth. Why shouldnt he get away with playing with peoples lives. Should i tell her? Wot do u guys think. Thanks for reading. K.B
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reader, GrimmReality  +, writes (2 June 2009):
 Well being that you knew that they were on a break, it really dosen't seem like you feel too guilty about it anyway. You were going for more of the "spite", right.Of course the best thing you could do is leave it alone, but what the hell, right? he used you for sex, so you mind as well get him back by hurting HER.Since he is such a liar, I assume that you are positive beyond a shadow of a doubt that they were on a break, right?See how you sound? You were an accomplice, so your last paragraph in which you ask why should he get away with playing with peoples lives?...Him being a sneak and a liar...Uh being that you were a willing conspirator(whether or not they are on a break, this is still on shaky ground) you should have no problem telling her, then watch the fireworks. Great huh? To watch an innocent woman having her world shattered by finding out....The point is young lady, what the heck were you thinking engaging in this activity in the first place, knowing that you can't be sure he is honest about anything? And putting yourself into such a position by helping him do it???. What the hell are these parents teaching their children these past two decades...apparently fucking NOTHING! Have some self respect for yourself instead of involving yourself in this low drama any further and cut the guy out of your life completely. That should be obvious
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2009): I don't think it would do any good to tell her as she will just think you are either crazy or just want him back so you will do anything to break them up.
The only person you can control is yourself. He has proven himself to be a liar, a user and a player of women's feelings, now that you know this, vow to cut off all contact with him as he is not worth your time or your feelings. Just move on and have nothing to do with him or any of his "girlfriends". You are angry and you are wanting to hurt him, not help the girlfriend. She may in fact have a suspicion about him but is ignoring it for her own selfish insecure reasons. Remember what goes around comes around....He will get his comeupance eventually without you helping it along....that is what I have seen happen....so just let it go.
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