I walked out after 3 years, he talks with, dates other women. proclaims it's nothing, is he just a cheat?

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

I walked out on my boyfriend a few days ago after learning that he had been talking on the phone with a woman that I asked him not to talk to. I had an altercation with her and thought that they stopped talking but they have been talking lately behind my back. My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years and he met her sometime within the last year. He keeps saying that they are just friends and that it's "nothing". This is not the first time that this has happened. She is about the 5th woman that he has met and befriended and he always lies to me about them or fails to say. He never even gives me a chance to understand and I feel disrespected and humiliated. Talking also consists of him taking them to dinner, seeing them etc. He never tells me these things and I always find out by way of a third party or a slip up on his part. I understand that opposing genders can have platonic relationships munis the romance but I feel that this is more that what he is saying. I don't want to risk getting hurt again but I dont want to lose him if he is good. Am I being unreasonable or asking too much my breaking it off with him because he says that he's not cheating? Or is he being disrespectful to me? I am having mixed emotions. PLEASE HELP!

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