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writes:Please help! my boyfriend is 12 years older than i am.He is ready for any family responsibility.but when i told him i was pregnant,he told me to get and abortion because he want me to finish school.Do you guys think he loves me or was just an abuser who were taking advantage of the youngest.Thanks for your reply
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (7 February 2013):
 You are old enough to date
You are old enough to vote
You are old enough to have sex and get pregnant.
My husband is 13 years younger than I am… am I taking advantage of his youth? I don’t think so he was over 21 when I met him….
You say he is ready for any family responsibility… you both got pregnant.. he wants you to have an abortion so you can finish school? What is the rule there pregnant women can’t attend school? Mothers can’t attend school? Umm no he is NOT ready for any family responsibility if he will not step up….
I don’t know if he loves you or if he’s an abuser but you are not some 17 yr old baby a 29 yr old guy went after… you are a grown woman. I was married and pregnant with my second child at 26… NOT a baby honey… a grown woman… just because your boyfriend is older does not mean he’s a predator (although he could be… and he could target younger women specifically so he can bully them into doing what he wants and avoid reality and adulthood)
IF you are pregnant and you want to keep the baby, dump the boyfriend who's clearly not ready for adult responsibilities... get a DNA test when your baby is born and go to court to get court ordered child support because I'm betting he's not going to be mature enough or responsible enough to give you the proper amount to raise your child.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2013): Words and actions are two very different things. What does it matter if he is 12 years older than you, you are not a teenager, but quite within a birth giving age. My husband and I decided to have only one child 26 years ago, and that was it, we had only that one child, and no more pregnancies. It's not a big science, birth control.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 February 2013):
 Well, if you are 26-29 , I don't know if we can play the " took advantage of the youngest " card. You are an adult as well and you are equally responsible for planning your pregnancies, even more considering you've got to finish your school. Weren't you on birth control ? Why ?
Anyway, we really don't know , he may just be selflessly concerned about you, or he may not be eager to take on the financial responsibility etc. But, I'd say, that's not really what matters most now, what matters is what YOU want. Make your decision in freedom and awareness- this is your body and you are going to have this baby, or not have it, because that's what YOU want to do, not because someone else chooses solutions for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 February 2013): Honey, you are pregnant, you do what you feel is right with or without him.He cannot play games in this kind of situation, say I ready for a family and then change your mind after having unprotected sex. Goodluck and be careful of this guy, because he cannot be trusted.
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