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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok so I'm a 17 year old lesbian and in my first year at college. I was taught by Miss X in years 10 and 11 and developed feelings for her. Even now I can't stop thinking about her. During my time being taught by her, I'm pretty sure she knew.She openly told me she was bi and we spent a good 20 minutes talking about it, she emailed me asking if I wanted help with any work, and she didn't email anyone else (not being big headed but I, along with a friend, was the top in the class), she told me where she lives (fortunately close to me), she told me to come back to her class at lunch to talk about A levels..which we did, but spent most of the time talking and laughing about other stuff. Ok so there's such a thing as 'favourite student' in a lot of cases with teachers, but because of the feelings I have for her, I can't help but to think because of this, and because we generally got on really well and because of constant "ooo she's fliting with you" comments from fellow students, maybe something else. I don't know!! I'm confuuuused as hell.When I left the school, she told me to come and see her to catch up and stuff, so I did for a good few months, and it was great, however, I told another teacher who I trust at the end of school, and don't know if she told Miss X. I can't say I'd mind too much as it sucks keeping it to myself, but I never know whether I should go see her as she might feel weird if she does know.I've completely fallen for this woman..and I don't know what to do
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 May 2008): It dosen't matter if your a lesbian, it dosen't matter if she's bisexual. It dosen't matter if she loves you or you love her. SHE IS YOU TEACHER. Her job is to teach, your job is to learn.
It sounds like she's trying to support you with your sexuality. Your a young girl, trying to develop into a morally strong independent adult. She knows about the discrimination that gay teenagers can suffer and could be trying to help with this. No matter. I do not think your friendship with her is appropriate. She is your teacher and she should remain as such and not do things that encourage you in your romantic feelings about her.
You can love who you want to, but I would urge you not to act on these feelings. You can love who you want to, she can love anybody she wants. But for the sake of her job and reputation, I urge you to limit your contact with her to decent levels.
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