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writes: My current bf has nude pics of his ex. I have stumbled across them before on his computer when trying to find photos I uploaded. I had confronted him on this before because well it made me feel crummy and it seemed as thou he was living in the past because he has various photos of this particular ex on his computer and in photo albums. After talking it over he had told me he deleted that naked ones. Well...A few months go by and again I'm looking for photos we uploaded from our trip south not knowing where exactly he uploaded them to I search and yet again there is that same ex in different nude photos. Again I confront him and he said he didn't even realize they were there.That seemed like it was a legitimate answer because he did have 100s and 100s of other photos so I imagine it would be hard to find them all.After that he assured me they had all been removed and then here we go again I find actually physical photos (ie not photos on the pc) of her and him in random sex acts.I don't know what to do anymore. I am currently pregnant and can't handle the stress. I've been making myself sick from crying. Anyone have any input on what I should do?
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (15 February 2011):
People have all sorts of stuff from their past in their lives. Computers are filled with old junk. People have boxes and closets that are cluttered with stuff that isn't looked at since moving day. If your bf is understanding of your feelings and deletes and throws out these old pictures when they come up, just try to distract yourself from thinking about it.
I've had similar experiences where I've found pictures of his ex just lying around in a pocket of a jacket not worn for a few years or in a box or closet. I get upset when I see it, but my fiance now knows it upsets me and tells me it's nothing to worry about, that he didn't even know it was there, and then we throw it out. I'm a little insecure for a bit, but a little bit of cuddling and intimate time together, and it is soon forgotten. With time, little by little the blasts from the past should get fewer and fewer.
So just tell your bf how you feel. Tell him that when it happens, you get a little insecure and upset and you just need some patience, understanding, love and comfort to get through it.
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reader, the_phoenic  +, writes (15 February 2011):
any maneven if he is an honest partner would enjoy looking at a nude photos of a beautifull woman and i dont think he well delete them he just might hide them or upload them in a secret siteimhoif he is honest and you love himjust get over this issue because it is not serious at allGood Luck
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