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writes:Hi all. I would appreciate some opinions on this matter. Thanks!I met a guy on a dating website. It is the first time I have ever used a site like that. We got to know each other and eventually met. I think it went well, and I really like him. That was two weeks ago. We have remained in contact, but I am beginning to wonder if he is not interested in me now we have met. I just can't tell. He replies to me when I contact him, but doesn't really initiate contact as much as before we met. As for making a second date...well, I have no idea. A few days ago he asked me what I would like to do when we next meet, and then said it would not be for another few weeks though. Now, he works, so is probably fairly busy, but I would have thought that if he liked me, then surely he would make some time for us to meet, right? Like at the weekends?I'm new to this whole dating thing, so I really don't know what to think. Am I right in thinking he doesn't seem very keen? Or is this the way dating works? Am I taking it all too fast? Thank you very much for any opinions! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 May 2011): Hi, I am the person who asked this question. Thank you very much for your replies! He was very respectful when we met, and he did seem interested in conversation, and in me as a person. There was nothing sexual about the date at all.
I am going to take your advice and carry on with my life. I will stay in touch with him, but I will back off a bit, and I won't sit around and wait for him. I do indeed have a tendency to become attached to people very quickly, so I guess I need to calm down in that respect! Thank you all again!
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reader, Eyespy17  +, writes (29 May 2011):
Some people on dating websites are just there for "hookups" ; some are there to have a rotation of women to see (which could mean you see him once every two weeks) and some are there for a realtionship (boyfriend). While still in the dating stage, it's important not to get too attached to one person. Because a guy who meets you for a drink on Friday night is still allowed to meet another woman for brunch on saturday and a third for dinner on Saturday night. So for now, make sure you are looking around and chatting with / emailing a number of guys who interest you. Dating is about seeing what options are out there so you can did the best fit for you. Good luck and try to enjoy!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2011): He has said the next date won't be for a few weeks so like you say he is probably busy or he could of course be trying to let you don't gentle. In the next couple of weeks keep contact but don't go overboard and let him mention the date, for the most part though let him come to you.
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (29 May 2011):
 ok, before you met in person did he initiate contact more then? when you met how did he behave? was he respectful or did he try to get sex? did he seem interested in conversation with you? it is true i think that if he really liked you he would want to make sure he found time to see you. sorry but maybe as he was on the dating site he may have other girls that he arranges dates with and maybe this is why he won't commit to a second date with you. stop chasing him, get on with your life, maybe meet other guys or at least spend time with your friends, and then if he contacts you in the future and wants to go out, then fine, meet him - if you still want to
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