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writes:Me [18] and my college friends have recently started clubbing, and a friend of a friend called Rosie has joined us. I quite like her, and suspect she likes me. She laughs at unfunny jokes and 'brushes' against me whenever she can, holds my hands to dance, turns herself towards me and away from the others, asks for me to buy her drinks, whispers in my ear, asks me to protect her, and calls me her new best friend.Only problem is, she has been pretty drunk during these times. She is quite bubbly when we talk sobre and on Facebook, but not as much. She uses words like 'hun' and stuff. I told her in an ambiguous way that I really liked her, but rather than asking in what way, she just said 'aw you're kwl'. Another thing is she is a friend of my ex', making it a little complicated.Should I try and tell her I fancy her next time, or go in for a kiss? Can I be blamed for picking up signals?
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reader, Odds  +, writes (29 May 2011):
 Who cares if she likes you now? You'll stand a better chance of swaying her feelings if you make a move than if you don't. Even if she isn't interested now, she may grow to be interested.Thing is, with most girls it's better to let it happen "naturally," without words. Don't tell her you fancy her, just keep flirting with her. Go out with her and everyone else, and when she gets flirty with you, flirt back. Don't be afraid to touch her - hand on the forearm, hold her waist, hug her tightly, whatever seems appropriate at the time. Dance with her. Go for a kiss if you think you can do it. Let your body language do all the talking. Just try not to seem to eager; your attitude should be along the lines of "This kind of interaction and contact is normal, natural, and fun, but not vital to my happiness."If you get rejected at any point, brush it off like no big deal. Partly because she may just be play-rejecting you (you'll have to judge that for yourself), and partly because it really isn't a big deal. Plenty of fish in the sea.
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