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writes:I have an amazing boyfriend, we've been together for 2 years and have been living together for a year.However, ever since we moved it, i realised that my boyfriend slowly slowly seems to lose the need to spend alone time with me or go on a "date". We are always with someone or with his friend or family and it is very rare that he will suggest we do something alone.I talked to him about it already he told me he will try and changed but nothing did... i miss him all the time and i want to be with him all the time. When i asked him if he misses me he replies to me "why would i miss you we live together"...i dont know what to do... i feel like moving in together was big mistake. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 July 2009): Men and women spend time together differently. When women go out with women, they hold conversation and are tuned into each other. Men on the other hand, will 'do' something together, but hold little conversation, that is how they bond. He is only doing what comes naturally for men. To him, doing something with you, is spending time with you.
You need to show him what you need, don't expect that he already knows. Set up an evening together...dinner and movie out...the thing is, since it is important to you,put the effort into making it happen and you will be so much happier.
We are all responsible for our own happiness, make sure you are happy :)
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (15 July 2009):
 Well this naturally happens, he feels as though your always there and there's no need for much "alone time" because your always by his side anyway, regardless of who is there. Tell him when he next says a friends coming round that you were thinking you two could go to the cinema today, or go for a drink, or just simply hang out. With any luck he'll cancel on his friend (it wont hurt him to do it once) and come with you. I feel your need, but i think men view it differently.
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