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writes:Hey everyone, I have a unique question. I've been with my boyfriend for nearly seven years now and we've never had a fully functional sex life. Sex has always been too painful for me, until I had an operation last year when the doctor finally diagnosed that I needed some skin removed.Anyway, we have the perfect relationship and have (over the years) adjusted to not being able to have full sex.Now that I can, I need some tips.So I've only ever had uncomfortable sex and only sex in the missionary position.Could the women reading this please give me some tips about what positions work best for you.. and also what you can do during sex to enjoy an orgasm?Sadly I know as much about good sex a nun :( Look forward to hearing your thoughts and ideas.Thanks heaps.
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reader, Odds  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 My first girlfriend and I used to do what we called the "post-game analysis." Once the afterglow had worn off, we'd go over what we did - what worked, what didn't, what we should try to expand on, ideas we had. Over the course of about a year, we pretty much learned all of each others' buttons. Life was good. If you are comfortable enough to talk with him very candidly about it, you can both improve each other.
You both have to be willing to say, "That didn't work for me," as well as hear it. Both of you have to understand that's not a criticism of each other, just of tht specific technique. Good luck.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 You really need to explore this on your own. I suggest you start out with what you are used to and get to know the difference and new feel of it. Take it slow, don't jump into anything crazy, but work through the first 3-5 normal positions before you go wild. If you don't know anything about positions you can google them for pictures online, or you can buy a book with pictures of positions (I've seen those books in every typical bookstore) such books as the Kama Sutra can also be educational for positions, although it can go to the extremes.
The typical woman do not orgasm from penetration, but from stimulation of the clitoris. So there is no rule on what position works best, there's no such thing. Either you can get off from penetration and then you need to figure out which one that works for you, or you just can't get off from penetration in which case you need to focus on what position makes you feel better. And this varies from woman to woman, although the missionary is one of the most preferred positions, at least to start out from.
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reader, amicalus  +, writes (23 December 2010):
 Hi,
my first advice for you is to take your time when you have sex, you have to be in positive mindset.
read some books of sex relation and positions like kamasutra. for me, my fave position is missionary lolll.
have a nice day
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