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*lane1988
writes:I met my fiance 11 months ago in prison and over the year that we have been together we have grown to be so much in love well so much like we were in love and now that he is out his family doesnt like me and he has been trying to blow me off for the last 2 days and he will tell me something and then not do it. I really just need to no if i need to let him go and no if he is cheating on me?
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (20 October 2010):
 We can't know if he's just adjusting to the new situation, or if he already adjusted and you're part of the "old" situation.
Those bars, they do change people´s perspectives, you know? Once you're out, you see things in a very different way.
I think we need to give this man the benefit of the doubt.
One good thing I can say about him. He doesn't seem interested in using you. I personally knew of someone who was there for her convict husband all the time, and who welcomed him at home when he served his time. They were married, but they had separated before he went to jail. Well, the man went back to her, but because he had nowhere else to go. As soon as he could do something on his own, he left her. That is not the case with him.
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (20 October 2010):
 A former inmate, what a catch.
You guys are engaged? You have a ring, when's the wedding? It's possible he's busy sorting out what he is going to do in his life. Hopefully, he's trying to make it go in the right direction. Maybe you're coming on as being pushy since he got out. He's used to a relationship behind bars, more or less a LDR. Now, that you two are face to face without glass he's finding it difficult to adjust. I would give him a little time to sort things out. Back off, just because he hasn't talked to you in 2 days it could very well be because of a valid reason. Don't jump to conclusions and suspect him of cheating unless you have evidence. Never assume.
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