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writes:So I was in a short relationship with a guy, at that time I was not ready and I broke up with him. He was my first boyfriend. I didn't realise then, but after almost 6 months I have realised that I really love him. I miss how in love he was with me and now that I'm trying to talk to him again and maybe ask for another chance, he says he's moved on and that we should remain good pals and that he doesn't date anymore thinks to me. It really hurts, he isn't dating anyone but I really want him back and I have no idea how to convince him that I love him and I miss him and I deserve a second chance because I regret what I did to him. Everyone is like move on, but I can't. I really love him. Please tell me how do I get him back like he was before?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 June 2014): You cannot force him to come back to you. You seem to have grown into an unhealthy obsession/love for him. Its in your best interest to stop all contact with him and change your focus. 1. He will realise that he wants you back 2. He continues to move on without and so will you move on. Calling, stalking begging pleading is not going to bring him back and you will feel worst. Start by focusing on living and enjoying life.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2014): You're 16. In two years, you will almost never think of this person again.
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reader, llifton  +, writes (8 June 2014):
 "I have no idea how to convince him that I love him and I miss him and I deserve a second chance because I regret what I did to him." - sadly, you can't convince him of something he's not interested in.
I think this may just have to be one of those lesson learned experiences. Sometimes, just because someone loved you in the past, doesn't mean they will love you in the future. That love is contingent upon how you treat them. Love takes nurturing to grow. And if it's neglected, it dies. You unfortunately neglected it, and he realized he had to move on, so he did. It obviously hurt him, as he admits to not dating anymore. I think he's playing it smart. He loved you and lost you and now he's moved on. You should do the same.
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 June 2014): You have learned something; only it is too late. Your friends are correct that you should move on. Right now, you just want him more, because he doesn't want to comeback to you. It hurts to be rejected. You have to know what that feels like; so you will be careful how you treat the feelings of others.
You will get over this. Don't push it. He is willing to be friends with you. If that isn't enough for you; then you must move on, even if it hurts to do it. You can't force him to like you the way he used to. So I guess you have to grow up a little.
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