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writes:I'm 14 years old and my boyfriend is 18, I met him through my friend from school whos dating his best friend (she's 13, he's 17). We've been together 6 months now, and he's never asked for anything sexual at all. My parents have met him and approve and really like him, he stayed the week at our house last week. My mom said to about a month ago that although she wasn't encouraging it, if we wanted to take things further I could go on the pill but to make sure it's what i want and not just for him. Last week when he was staying with us we had a chat about sex between us, we decided that now seemed like the right time and I could go on the pill after my next period (due this week). However when we did have sex the condom had split inside me without us knowing, although he didn't ejaculate. Now I'm scared I could be pregnant as I counldn't get the morning after pill over the chemist counter as I'm underage. I'm going to wait until the end of the week to see if I've skipped my period then talk to my mom about what I should do if I am pregnant, although I'm scared of her reaction a she did offer me the pill. I'm really confused about what I should do as I've always been against abortion, my boyfriend has a job and i work a few nigths after school in my mom's hairdressing salon, so we both have some sort of income, however I'm still in school (Year 9) so I can't look after a baby and if we have a baby my boyfriend will work full time, so I can only keep the baby if my family will help support me. Please give me your opinions about what I should decide.(P.S. Please no comments about my age, my boyfriends age or the age gap between us, or the stupidity of me not taking the pill or having sex underage, I really don't need nasty comments at the moment thank you.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for all your advice and help guys, I'm not pregnant, my period came and I took two home pregnancy tests, both showed negative. We will continue to use condoms and I have an appointment with my Mom at the doctors to get me on birth control, Thanks again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): Whatever you do, please don't do it alone. It will be hard on you whatever you decide. I hope things turn out for the best for you. Just be strong and you can get through this. It is good you have a boyfriend that is supportive. You are smart for considering your options, as well as your own future.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionMy boyfriend knows I could be pregnant and blames himself although I keep telling him it's nobodies fault the condom split, these things just happen. He also wants to keep the baby if I am pregnant, but we don't no what the legal consequences will be for him because I'm underage. I'm also worried that my parents won't be able to support me by looking after the child while I finish school, and if they can't I'll have to have an abortion, I think I'd find it easier to get rid of it now while it's not a developed baby, then having to give it away to someone else after carrying it for 9 months and giving birth to it. Although abortion is my absolute last option, however if having the baby puts my boyfriend at risk of a prison sentence I won't have it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): Sorry I had no idea you lived in the middle of the countryside, so a home pregnancy test would be another choice. I don't know the chances of your boyfriend going to jail because you being under aged and potentially pregnant. So I am guessing he may not know about the possibility of you being pregnant. You both consented for a relationship, but I don't know how the law works there regarding the age difference between you and your boyfriend. I wouldn't expect your mom to be happy if you are pregnant, because it would be a huge shock on her to learn that. The biggest reaction you will have in the case you have to tell your family is shock.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): I am also pregnant. I was only like 2 days away from my period. Now its been 2 months without a period. I urge u to tell your mum your worries so she can take u to the clinic. Better to tell her first then for her to feel like the last to no.Im keeping my baby. As I agree that abortions are disgusting.And I don't think id like someone else raising my baby. Im in a worst situation then you - mine was a one night stand with the biggest jerk I no. So keep ur bf by ur side.. And have ur mum on the other side. Once u hold ur baby u will no wat u want to do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your help guys, I know it's unlikely but I'm just scared it will happen. As for XY thanks for your advice but i live in the middle of the countryside and any family planning clinics are 10+ miles away and I doubt my parents will take me that far without knowing why, and it's not like me to go out anywhere on my own, and I only want to tell my parents if I am pregnant to avoid any trouble. I'm also concerned that if I am pregnant and want to have the child, that my boyfriend could be sent to prison because I'm underage, what are the chances of this happening?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 April 2009): Hey, So I am guessing it is too late to get the morning after pill? Okay, go to a local health clinic and get tested to see if you are pregnant. They can ask you to take a urine test and also a blood test, and it can tell you if you are pregnant before your period. You can do this now, instead of waiting to see if your period has been skipped. In the case you are pregnant you have three options, well two since you are against abortion. Keep the baby, and raise it or give it up for adoption. I know you are against abortion, but in the case you did decide to have an abortion it has to be done early in the pregnancy. Whatever you do, don't do it alone and it is good your mom is still there to support you even though she didn't encourage you to go further with the guy. So in the case you are not pregnant, please go back on birth control that doesn't make you sick if you have experienced that. No birth control is a hundred percent so continue to use condoms even when you are on birth control.
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reader, XxDefineMexX  +, writes (13 April 2009):
 If he didn't cum you probably have nothing to worry about...But also you were just about to start your period which is a good thing. About 5 days before you get your period it is highly unlikly you will get pregnant and the opposite is also true so in the middle of the month theres a much higher chance of becoming pregnant.
So you have nothing to worry about.
Hope I helped=]
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