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*enris
writes:I find myself in a situation new to me, a few nights ago I was watching a movie with a female friend, halfway through the movie she mentioned that she finds it funny how guys hate to perform oral sex, but are angry when a female refuses to do it. I argued by telling her that I actually like giving a girl oral sex, she told me to prove it, after some arguing back and forth whether I would, I felt the need to backup my word. I have seen her a couple times since, she keeps asking me to do it again, I find her very attractive and neither of us are in a relationship at the moment, and as mentioned before I enjoy doing it, so I have done it a few times and the other day she returned the favor. Now I have now had a "friend with benefits" before and am curious what the rules are, and is this totally inappropriate being that we're not in a relationship?
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): I think friends with benefits is a really bad idea, especially for the girl...the majority of women are not wired that way, they emotionally bond with the person they are having sex with unless they absolutely hate you, and that is doubtful or they would not be interested.
If you like this girl, why not actually start a relationship with her, you don't have to have the whole story written out, but give her the attention and romance she deserves, be a man, step up, and if she is not interested don't waste your time on her.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): You have to disscuss the rules. The pair of you need to talk about what you both want. As long as it is what the pair of you truely want there is nothing wrong with doing sexual acts/having intercourse. Dont put your life on hold because f**k buddies never prosper into anything meaningful.
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (22 August 2007):
I dont think there really are any rules, besides for dont let yourself fall for her! I personaly would stay away from 'friends with benefits' cause more then likely ONE of you will start likeing the other person alot more....and the other one jsut wont feel that way and will want to stay being just friends with benefits. So someone is likely to get caught.
Whether its appropiate or not comes down to personal opinion. Some people think its ok, some dont. What matters is if you guys btoh think its ok.
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