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*amaz
writes:My first true love in high school graduated and left to the Army for four years. After years passed I was told by his friends he was living with someone over seas so I started dating. It broke his heart when he returned. I was so ashamed that I never looked at him or said sorry to him. It's been 18 years and it has bothered me many of times that we never spoke that day or ever seen each other again. I would think of him but didn't look for him. A month ago I seen him on the internet and said hi and he wanted to meet up. So we did and finally I was able to say sorry for hurting him. We both have grown up, married and have families. We kissed to say good bye. But not knowing our heart and souls completely connected with a powerful warmth of loving happiness that I never felt till now. We have tried to let go the feelings but can't. So we decided to let it be known we are together. His wife called him to tell him she is three months pregnant. He wants more kids and he can't leave her pregnant with his child. I'm sure people will think we are wrong for being together in the first place but our souls felt as if they never parted. I want to know if this was true love or should I close the door and never look back?
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reader, mamaz +, writes (23 August 2007):
mamaz is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI want to thank everyone for responding to my question and thank you all for your comments. We have to put all the cards on the table and deal with the out come.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): I think you should get divorces and be together.
It's worse him staying with his wife for the 'sake of the child' when it's not doing his unborn baby any favours or his wife.
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reader, alvendahahn  +, writes (22 August 2007):
 You have to forget him . Remember you have had someone who really loves you, it's your husband. Do not break his heart as you did it to your boy friend in the past.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 August 2007): To be honest with you the pair of you need to discuss what you are going to do about the suituation you are in. At the end of the day, there is no point him being in his curret marriage if he is only in it for the kids. It wont work out. You will have to be patient and not pressurise him into do anything he doesnt want to do. Honesty is the best policy. In all aspects. dont do anything you would regret in the future. Maybe the pair of you could have kids if thats what both of you wanted. HOWEVER DON'T BE HIS BIT ON THE SIDE. you deserve better.
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reader, aphexinfinite  +, writes (22 August 2007):
 i think you never closed the door that you left open..maybe it wasnt ment to be closed or maybe it was ment to be shut you will know what to do when the time comes youre just questioning if its worng or not.. you cant help who you love, as long as you dont hurt the ones you do love and if you find youreself in a position where they will get hurt then deal with it dont hide it it will only make matters worse..he can still support a child and not be with her..if you love him and he loves you and you feel this is right then do it, we all learn by our mistakes you might have one to learn or maybe not i hope this helps Axx
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