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Now I have met with the ex what should be my next steps?

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Question - (2 July 2011) 1 Answers - (Newest, 2 July 2011)
A female United Kingdom age 41-50, anonymous writes:

The meeting we had planned last sunday happened last night... he came round to my house and i made us something to eat. I was pretty nervous about the meeting but as soon as he arrived i realised i had no reason to be nervous. We had a really nice time, had laughs and jokes and it was clear there is still attraction between us. He was flirting with me and towards the end of the night we did kiss (initiated by him).

He broke up with me as he didn't know what he wanted and was going thorugh a strange time in his life, he couldnt pin point why he was feeling the way he was. That was 8 weeks ago and since then we have been in LC.

So i decided not to bring up the relationship as i didnt want to after not seeing anyone him for 6 weeks pounce on it and question it, i just wanted to see if we got on ok etc...clearly we did. I also asked if he wanted to meet up again and he said he did. But what do i do now? Im conscious i need to take things slow and at some point we need to discuss things. Do i let him initiate meeting up again? as well what about texting, should i wait for him to contact?

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A female reader, Denise32 United States +, writes (2 July 2011):

Denise32 agony auntIt's only been eight weeks since he broke up with you because he said he was uncertain as to where he is in life. You know, it's hardly likely (not impossible, but not too likely) that he has all that sorted yet.

Wait a while and see if he contacts you again and if so, what he has to say. It really is too soon to discuss the status of your relationship at this point. He might or might not bring it up himself. If he invites you to go out and you want to, then just enjoy one another's company and keep things light. Probably better not to get sexually involved again until you both know for sure if there is to be a resumption of your relationship.

If you don't hear from him in a week or more, then you might call just to see how he's doing - unless you decide better to simply let it go entirely.

Good luck!

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