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writes:About 3-4 months ago my college started to employ these teaching assistants who were to help with our studies and coursework that students were finding difficult and I was allocated to one myself about 2 months ago. When I first saw her I didnt pay much attention to her and didnt think much of her. But ever since then (about two months ago) I started falling for her quite heavily and I just cant stop thinking about her all the time. Im 18 and shes around 23, and needless to say that is a very bizarre age gap. I think that she likes me too but in just breaking myself trying to figure out if shes just being friendly. She sometimes hints quite heavily that she may like me by indirectly complimenting me and saying nice things about me, and sometimes id catch her looking at me out of the corner of my eye and when i turn to look at her, shed turn away really quick like shes embarassed, and sometimes shed look straight at me and we'd lock eyes for about 5 seconds until one of us would look away. She always says goodbye and she talks to me a lot about what I plan to do in the future, and everytime we talk she is always smiling. The thing is that everytime im with her I feel like im on top of the world, and I just cant stop smiling.Recently a group of students, me and some TA's including her had the chance to get out of the college for a day out. Whenever we talked we would always be alone and once when I was alone and quite ahead of the group while walking, she actually ran in front of me and started talking to me. Once, the entire group had a bathroom break and when everyone had finished, a friend had the urge to in badly and just went without anyone knowing. The group started leaving and I told her that id wait for my friend and she said ok. Half a minute later she came back alone and just started talking to me. When my friend came back out she actually looked disappointed and we all left. By now, I had had enough and I decided that something had to be done, so I asked her if we could talk about something quite important sometime out of college. I told her that I could call her since I have her number, but she just said that I she couldnt but that I could email her like always. I asked that Id prefer something more direct and she kept saying that I could email her. Right now, I just dont know what to do, I dont know if she's into me or not and I really really like her. Please help me understand whats going on! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2011): not sure how wise your relationship is in the context of your college, however in the outside world, it would not be odd at all, moreover so as you two would get older.... my mom is 5 years older than my dad.... doesn't happen as often as the guy being five years old, but common enough nevertheless
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reader, Dodds  +, writes (2 July 2011):
 Im currently in sort of a similar situation.
By you telling her that you had something important to tell her basically got her defenses up n maybe freaked her out a bit,
and also insisting that you wanted to call her instead of email was being pushy on your part and putting her under pressure(women dont respond well when they feel pressured),
what you should do however is just tell her that you'd like her to hang out with you sometime,even let her know by way of sending her that email n see how it goes
i did that with this particular chick i fancy and she came over and spent some good quality time together(though all indicators from her show she likes me,some little ways she acts make me wonder again)
but generaly if she still is talking to you n spending time with you,then its safe to suffice she likes you...
just take it slow with her n get to know each other with your particular chick coz i think she likes you
GOOD LUCK!!
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