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writes: So I asked almost the same question before, but some things have changed and I don't know what to do. Im a freshman in high school and there is this guy who is a sophomore. When i was in middle school and he was a freshman, we dated 2 times for about 2 months each. After that we both just stopped talking to each other and all a sudden 2 months later we are liking each other again (I think). He always has been telling me he has missed me, he wants things to change, and I believe him. Yesterday we were texting and I asked him if he liked me and he said "I thought we were friends"... and it instantly broke my heart. Ive liked this kid for a long time and he wants to now "start over and fresh". I dont know what to do. He's not the playboy type, he's very respectful and honest and likes to put school first. I dont know what to do can somone please help!!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 September 2016):
So what he wants is to be friends only? Is that what you think he meant with his "start over" ?
He wants to be friends, you want more?
At least that is what it seems like to me.
If you DON'T want him as JUST your friend, tell him. Tell him:" I have feelings for you that are more than friends, but I understand you don't feel the same so I wish you luck and then we are done talking because it's just too hurtful for me."
And then you cut him off.
I'm sorry he is NOT that respectful if he was constantly flirting with you over text and then drops the "we are just friends". Friends don't flirt. They may have banter, but that isn't the same. The fact that he ONLY did it over text and not in person kind of shows that he was using you to boost his own little ego. Not that he was "shy".
Time to let go of the crush on him. Your little dating thing lasted two months, everything else has just been a crush.
YOU are in charge of how people treat you, do you think it's OK to flirt with someone one minute and then pretend that you are just friends the next? It's kind of hurtful.
So be classy. Wish him good luck and cut him off. Don't let him use you to flirt with or text when he is bored.
There is a whole high school full of people, so make friends and met new people. And forget about this guy.
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reader, Andie's Thoughts +, writes (1 September 2016):
What could he want to change? What happened last time?
What does he want to start fresh with if he didn't say he likes you?
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