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writes:Hello. I have a lesbian friend, let's say her name is “X”. Me and “X” are close friends. Then, suddenly she admits that she likes me and I laugh coz I like her too. We became so close. She's flirting with me and I did the same. We both decided to have a fake relationship that works well.A few months later, she did try to court me again but still no sincerity shown. I was thinking, is she serious or she's just trying to mess with me. So, out of instinct, I told her that I was just joking.I only love you as a friend. Then, she looked at me like a kicked puppy and then she leave my side and I pull her closer to me and ask her if she's alright. I just received a silent treatment. I realised that it was I had said earlier. I tried to calm her, comfort her and hug her and luckily she calm down.We still are hanging out but I noticed the sudden change of her. She's not the friend or my "wifey" as what we called it anymore. She's getting annoying and sometimes she would ignore me that isn't usual. Until the day came, she keeps on talking that she like girls who have long hair and unfortunately I have a short hair. She told me that there's a girl who's trying to get her attention and she thought she might like her. I got jealous and I told her that she should court her even though it hurts my feelings. Every time she would see me, she excuse herself. She can't even look me in the eye like the way we did before. :'(. Does she hate me? Or is she tired of me?Because honestly, I still love her..
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reader, Lyn Ambrose +, writes (2 September 2016):
Lyn Ambrose is verified as being by the original poster of the question Ohh? We're not planning on living together since I'm still 17 and she's 18. We're both too young too do that. And she kept on telling me that I'll be her wife in the future. But in reality, we both know that it's too impossible unless she's serious coz I'm okay with that but we're just too young to have a serious commitments. hahaha :-D. But, thanks for the advice. It helps me. :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2016): Yes it is very difficult to get over someone you fell in love with but it is also extremely easy when you realise that you can chalk it up to experience and that is all that it really was!You werent talking about living together and adopting a child were you,so in a sense you were just having fun which is probably the most sensible thing you could do being still in your early years.You need to think about yourself a bit now!What is it you would like out of life?You imagined a wonderful,covert joined life together but made it quite clear to her that it was not gonna be the real thing.I think you are capable of being friendly in a group with both boys and girls so it may help to redifine yourself socially if you are short of people to get out and about to music gigs,festivals and films.Dont bother to sit at home feeling miffed.If nothing else get a job at macdonalds where you will shine as you offer a friendly manner to your customers!Dont allow your feelings for that girl to be the only thing that defines you!Dont see it as rejection ,see it as growing up!I would expect you to be busy with your own life and your own progress!So fill the gap of sadness with activity even writing a novel for other youngsters about the development of your relationship.You dont have to publish it but it may help you to get through!Whatever you do remember to big yourself up for your qualities and not to think you have failed,because these events are all part of life and you will soon find new friendship and companionship,fun,and laughter! You can voice talk your stories these days and make them as imaginative as you like, not giving out names at all but by making up charactetrs that do crazy things in crazy situations.Dont rely on fact at all about personal stuff,just imagine how it would work out with two girls with short hair ,meeting and getting on together and how it would go after that.Make them both superwonderful and dont look back! Throw in a few complications and try to make it work out ok as most people like happy endings but if you want your readers reaching for the tissues, then you will have to fill it with pure tragedy.The choice is yours!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 September 2016): Yes it is very difficult to get over someone you fell in love with but it is also extremely easy when you realise that you can chalk it up to experience and that is all that it really was!
You werent talking about living together and adopting a child were you,
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reader, Lyn Ambrose +, writes (1 September 2016):
Lyn Ambrose is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for the answers guys. I just really feel so sad. I did told her that I'll set her free so that I couldn't ruin her happiness no matter how it hurts my heart. Sometimes, I tried to distance myself to her but she still hangs out to me. I'm just afraid coz to be honest, this is the first time I fell in love to someone. and that someone is her. Once again, thanks. :-)
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reader, Ivyblue  +, writes (1 September 2016):
 Id say she is tired of being dicked around. Creating a fake relationship I dont understand why but in a sense gave this poor girl false hope which is cruel given you know how she felt. You see, this is what happens when people play emotional games. She has moved on so my advice would be to let her do the same, give her and the friendship some space so she can have a fair go with this other girl. You snooze ,you loose. Sorry
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 September 2016): The answer is that she is simply testing the water to see what life is like and so are you.You enjoyed all the trappings of a relationship and so did she without the commitment!You had a warm fun loving kind of relationship because you are a warm fun loving kind of person.She doesnt hate you!In fact she still likes you!But she is ready to move on!She has a very serious side to her and it hurt her that it wasnt a serious relationship.She is looking for a far greater commitment and she thinks she may have found someone who is more like her in that respect!But she didnt know how to express it and so she told you she prefferred someone with longer hair,but it is not about the hair at all, so stop hating on yourself!She needs to be the future person she wants to be.You on the other hand will always be loved , because you are a warm person with the more serious side deeply hidden for your own protection!I think you will meet many more people in your young life and you will settle down when you have found exactly the correct person for you!Meanwhile you can make all sorts of happy plans and please dont forget that when one door is closed many more are opened!
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