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writes:Hey my girlfriend and I have been going out for like for months and we would always say we loved each other and in the easter holidays she went away for a week and then when she came back and told me that she was not ready for a relationship and it was not my fault that this had happened she just doesnt want to be tied down . She says she still cares for me and i dont know what to do i cant live without her because i loved her so much ,, what can i do?? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 April 2007): I feel this girl although does care for you, just doesn't feel she wants to be in a relationship anymore, maybe this could be because of her going away, and realising she would like to be single as she may feel she wants independence and to enjoy time with her friends.
And so this does as she said have nothing to do with you, yourself but simply to do with her and how she feels.
this which you should respect if you care.
Im sure she does still care for you as she had said this, but at this moment in time I feel it would be best to leave her to do as she is.
Im not saying it will be easy to do this as you say, you loved her, but if you do love her like you say then you will want to do what ever it takes to see her happy.
Although its not all about her, you still need to be thinking about your self and how you feel, maybe meeting up with some old friends that you haven't spent time with in a while because you've been caught up in your realtionship could help in making you feel better and gradually help you to move on. I hope all works out, and this has made some sence.
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reader, nologo  +, writes (20 April 2007):
 Okay, I feel the need to explain to you what happened.
When she came back said that she is not ready, right?
Probably your relationsip was thoroughly discussed by her extended family during that reunion.
As to "she just doesnt want to be tied down" - you should understand that she has been influenced.
"She says she still cares for me" - base your relationship with her on this; it's what you can do.
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