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writes: Hi, i got this friend and me n him have been spending alot of time together. We both like each other but the situation is really confusing as he's not ready to settle down and i'm not sure i wanna boyfriend. Its clear that feelings for each other are so there. What shall i do??? Reply to this Question
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reader, omo +, writes (20 June 2006):
i had the same problem as well.. it's much better if you's stay as best friends for the mean time. teasing is an art to any relationship as it's really good to test each other through the bad times to see how the situation is handled.
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reader, camille  +, writes (19 June 2006):
 Your answer is right there in your own words, "he's not ready to settle down and i'm not sure I wanna boyfriend", so don't 'do' anything. It's ok to have feelings and acknowledge them, but why the feel to act on them if you know the time's not right? If you're good enough friends, talk it through. It's better to get it out so you know where you both stand to avoid any confusion.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (19 June 2006):
 Hey sweetie
This is indeed very confusing, If i were you i would try just staying friends for a while longer take things slowly one step at a time you know no pressure on each other, there is nothing wrong with being close friends for a while longer to see how things work out and then when your both comfortable and at a stage in your friendship where your both fully happy with the situation take it the extra step further and become a couple.. personally rushing into this head on like a bull at a gate will only end in tears if you should find out later that neither of you was ready for this or actually wanted to take it further plus it will ruin what friendship you have now :o) slow and steady always wins the race!! remember honey rome was not built in a day and these feelings should be allowed to grow and blossom if in deed they are going to :o)
I hope my advice was able to help you out with your situation babe and good luck with this... if you ever need a friend or a chat or just more advice don't hesitate to email me sweetie, I would love to hear from you again and know how you got on... Remember i'm always here for you anytime ok
You Take Care Sweetie X
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