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writes: My boyfriend doesn't cum when I'm giving him oral sex. I feel like I am bad at it. Is there a reason why he doesn't cum? and if it is because I'm bad...any tips??
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 February 2005): Encourage your partner to talk to you during sex. Tell him you want to make him come, but you want to learn about his cock, this will get him ready!. Start with his 'head' in your mouth and let your tongue feel round certain bits ask him (before you start, obviously!) to let you know where feels good. His purring should give you a clue! Take your mouth away but stoke his shaft. Talk to him again. 'does this feel good?' etc... Replace your mouth pushing down further with your mouth, not sucking as such but causing a vaccuum in your mouth. As you read this try closing your mouth and sucking in your cheeks, imagine that pushing your tongue against him and applying pressure to that front third of his cock. Keep working him with your hand in time with your mouth taking him as deeply as comfortable. Let your free hand roam round between his legs and across his stomach and up over his nipples. If you are feeling adventurous, and you sense he is close, his scrotum tightens a bit and his breathing quickens ask him to relax and ease a moistened finger inside his ass and make a beckoning motion against the prostate, this can send some guys over the edge. Ask him if he is comfortable with this, if he not then stop.'Coming up for air' every so often and telling him how wet it is making you, while still firmly milking him with a long, firm corkscrew, turning motions right from the base over the rim of his 'helmet' will get him fit for shooting!(best way to describe this motion of the hand would be to make a fist and place it as if to punch yourself in the centre of the chest... now twist your fist so as your fingers and then your wrist rub across where the intial 'punch' was. Try that a few times then start moving the hand up from from the base of your rib cage as you twist your fist up to the intitial 'punch site'. Imagine his cock in the centre of your fist and centre your motion round this. Once you have this, try twisting in the oposite direction... ie. from wrist to fingers... try it up and down... try it on your man... )(Encourage him to tell you what he wants, or what feels nice it will help you both out I am sure and if he is still not there, get a condom on him, move up, squat down and enjoy yourself untill he blows! If it doesn't happen when you are down there that time, then it hasn't happened... just keep talking.
A reader, Kiv, writes (11 February 2005): I'm a guy, I'm fanatic about oral sex, and I recently ran into this problem. My girlfriend would try and try but couldn't make me cum. She really started feeling bad about it; like she wasn't pleasing me (similar to how you feel). I told her (being quite honest), that an orgasm from oral sex was great, but it feels awesome with or without the "O". The fact that you are will to do it is great, and that you WANT to make him cum is even better. Don't be afraid you're not pleasing him. A couple tips that helped my girlfriend, 1) Do it like you mean it, with "gusto". Doing it "so-so" feels good, but won't get him to climax. 2) Don't be afraid to squeeze a little. Use your hands, plenty of saliva (it sounds gross, but he won't think so, trust me), and make your mouth and your hand a tight fit. 3) Do some research on the most sensitive areas and focus on them. The frenulum (did I spell that right?) is a big one. 4) Practice, and practice often. Pay attention to what he responds to, and try different techniques. I'm sure he won't mind. 5) Surprise him with oral sex. Orgasm or no, you can't beat unexpected oral pleasure. In the theater, while he's driving, or in the house, out of nowhere, telling him to get comfortable and just do it. Waking up to oral sex is a personal favorite, but use your imagination. The excitement alone may be enough.Oh, on a side note. Keep open lines of communication about wanting to satisfy him and the efforts you're making. Don't confuse him with a sudden infatuation with oral sex. Enjoy! I'm sure he will
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2005): also all guys can't cum this way so have you ever asked him about it? that might help hope you have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2005): Hey, If you're too worried about pleasing him it might be turning him off. Just try and relax and enjoy youself if you need a little budge try moaning a little to get yourself into it, then just let go if you're not enjoying yourself. Also try fruit oils or something sweet or sour to add a little fun. it's not all about him!
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