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writes:Hi, so I've recently become sort of friends with this guy in one of my college classes. We make each other laugh and he's just a great guy to talk to and be around. I'm having feelings and I don't know what kind of feelings they are. Either I'm crushing on him or just want to be good friends. I've finally gotten over a guy I was in love with for 2 years and I could never have, and I've lost my touch. Like my ability to tell what my feelings mean. I was being mocked by my friends saying that we look good together, but I can't tell if that's what I want. Ive been thinking about it quite a lot recently, every time that I've bursted into laughter at one of his not so funny comments, or when we pass each other and stop to talk. I know the only person who knows how I'm feeling is me, but my mind is blurred and I can't make sense of my feelings. The other night guess i must've been thinking alot about him before going to sleep (I can't actually remember) and that night out of the blue I had a sex dream about him. I've had sex dreams before when I like a guy and even when I don't like the guy, so maybe it's just hormones rather than my subconscious showing real feelings? And well I'm a virgin so sex dreams are a somewhat casual reoccurrence right? How can I figure out how I'm feeling whilst being discreet about it? I don't want him to think I have feelings for him if i actually don't and just want to be friends. But then now when I see him I just think about sex and more sex (not entirely but mostly)... what should I do about the whole situation?
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reader, Cupid C.A  +, writes (13 May 2016):
If you're thinking about sex every time you see him, then you definately don't want to be just friends with him. However you'd rather be friends with him than nothing at all. I think its an evolving crush
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 May 2016):
 To me it sounds like a crush allright... not full blown yet but on its way there... like when you don't have a cold yet but you can feel it coming on...anyway, I concur with the other Aunts, why do you need to label " it " ? Just relax, and enjoy his company and the good times you share. Then, que sera sera.
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (10 May 2016):
 For now, since you are unsure, why not JUST settle for having a male friend who's company you enjoy?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 May 2016):
 Can you just let go and stop worrying about how you feel or why you feel it and enjoy his company?
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