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writes:Me and my child's dad hated each other or at least we argued a lotand couldn't get along.... now we talking like two friends,,laughing,,joking,,competing over funny but dumb stuff... he still has this girl he only knew for 6 months vs our 6yrs and I still feel angry about how that situation went down but I'm getting over it.. Now he wants to get sexual again.. And h is willing to do things as a family which he refused to do either before.. What's up with the sudden change he still has and lives with this girl by the way.. My friend say I should do it but I want a true outsiders opinion why is he wanting to be cool,, sexual,, and do family stuff now?? And should I go for it?? The sex I mean.. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (11 April 2013):
 Your friend is not thinking like an adult. I would not be sexual with him nor would I do family things with him. He’s your ex and as such you can be civil and friendly but not truly friends.
IF you are together as a couple then that’s one thing but you are his naughty bit on the side and doing things as a family with your children will eventually confuse them more than it’s worth for you.
What’s up with the sudden change? Have you asked HIM this exact question? IF not, do so. And listen to what he says… but watch his actions too.
He lives with his girlfriend. He’s not interested in ending it with her for you and the kids so why are you willing to be his naughty bit on the side?
I would NOT sleep with him. I would not do anything with him other than gather child support payments and make sure his visitation is done properly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2013): I would reconsider her as a friend because she is full of poor advise.
He's being nice because he wants sex...other than what he's getting at home. It's fake and it won't lead to him wanting a relationship.
I would stay clear of him and be weary of your 'friends' advice.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (11 April 2013):
Do you want to be in a relationship with him? If yes then make sweet love to him, if not then don't.
He's probably enjoying the time you're spending together since there's no pressure, just like you are. And he wants to have sex with you because he's horny.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2013): "What's up with the sudden change he still has and lives with this girl by the way.. "Either his current girlfriend/meal ticket is getting ready to dump him and so he sees you as a potential fallback Plan B or else he apparently thinks you're dumb and desperate enough to allow yourself to be strung along as a piece on the side at his convenience, and given that you are dumb enough to be seriously considering it when you "hated" him as recently as three days ago . . . http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-can-i-get-along-with-my-childs.html. . . and you were desperate to win him back two months ago . . . http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-my-babys-daddy-back-but-he.html. . . I would go with dumb and desperate.I know I'm banging my head against the wall, but you're a mother now and you need to put your daughter's best interests and emotional well-being ahead of your desire to hop back into the sack with baby daddy so you can have something to hold over that two-bit ho he dumped you for. My thoughts and prayers go out to an innocent child. Hopefully your daughter has the benefit of responsible adults (grandparents) who are truly concerned about her and therefore looking out for her interests instead of playing games.
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