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male
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writes:So me and this girl have been "talking" for about 4 months now. We met through friends around March 2011 and never really talked again at all or exchanged number until we exchanged numbers over Facebook and decided to go out to eat one day in July. Around October - November 2011 pretty much out of nowhere we started hanging out a lot. We started texting all day and I live about 35 minutes away from her... eventually I started coming over her apartment (shared with her grandma) and watching movies with her just about every weekend until like 5 in the morning and we'd talk about everything. I was pretty sure she started to like me and sure enough we kissed at about the 3rd time I stayed at her house...After the night we kissed I stopped leaving at 4-5AM and started spending the night at her house and winter break had come in December so I was over there every night. In December she asked me if she could see me and her together and I told her I thought about it a lot and we agreed that we need to learn about each other more. Since then we've been completely comfortable around each other. Going out on dinner dates, spending all day together alone just hanging out, messing around sexually but no ACTUAL sex (She's a virgin), even went out on New Years and Valentine's Day and it's been great... We always text each other about how we miss each other, you know, mushy texts, and have a mutual understanding that we weren't talking to anyone else. We haven't argued or anything so no warning signs to ME that I shouldn't keep forward with talking to her. No rushing. Now for the past maybe 3 weeks it feels like I'm getting less and less of her. Idk it's A weird gut feeling and I don't know what it is. We still hang out every week, not every day and that's understandable. She works just about everyday like me and we're both in school so it's not like winter break when we first started hanging out a lot... every time I come over we still cuddle up and watch movies, kissing and what not.. but nothing sexual has happened in a little over a month. I still take her to work and everything. but it feels like some things are missing. The texting has definitely lagged some... She'll take forever to text back now and the nicknames like "babe" "baby" etc have stopped..they're very sporatic. I'm not too picky on that so it doesn't bother me but I definitely notice the lack of it. I haven't really got an "I miss you" message unless I send it to her first. I know she still likes me but I don't know what to do. I asked her if she still thinks about us together last week and she said "you shouldn't have anything to worry about" and basically said we should let it ride out. Definitely didn't seem like the usual answer. The fact that she still asks me over and kisses me and we still hang out lets me know she likes me, but lately I've been paranoid. I kinda feel like I've been "sweating" (bothering) her about it. We talked about it and I knew it was annoying her and she confirmed. I'm still hanging out with her but I don't wanna tell her how I feel she's acting because it might push her away on account of her thinking needy or something, lol. I dont wanna NOT say anything, but I wanna get down to the bottom of it without saying the wrong things What should I do? Back off and make her come to me? ignore her for a bit? HELP!
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reader, 3much4u +, writes (22 April 2012):
I feel that you guys are starting to settle a bit. As the first person said keep flirting with her keep things interesting, show a lil resistance and be comfortable with her showing a lil resistance. The worse thing you can do is keep o n bothering her about how you feel disturbed. This will make you look a bit insecure. Maybe something could be bothering her and she hasn't opened up to you yet. So give her some space. By the way you have explained things I think you guys have a bright future.
Good Luck and all the best man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2012): Hello im a female. And you sound really sweet but i think you should really just give her space. not saying you sound clingy but women like men that are MEN were they have to chase them for a while to get to the good stuff. When i first started dating me and this guy were exacly like you two but then the more he became avalable every single time i want to hang or whatever it just got to easy? i dont know if that makes since but try and be avalable but not to avalable, maybe one day she wants to hang out just tell her im chillin with my friends but we can hang later or tomaarow then she'll notice it and start chasing you instead of the other way around. And also remember to flirt with her, maybe smack her a** when she gets up to use the bathroom or tell her she looks sexy today or something flirty and the more you make her feel sexy the more she'll wanna be sexy around you and be around you ya know?
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