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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes: hi, well ive been with this guy for 6 months now,im 17 and he's 23. and im feeling very insecure. for a number of reasons. he has a lot of friends that are girls and they ring him all the time one of them flirt with him alot and i heard that he used 2 like her, but some of them are his ex's. i admit he's been around a lot in the past and used 2 mess girls around all the time. bt e assured me that it was different with me and that he feels somethng for me and he doesnt want to hurt me. i know a lot of guys say this but i gave him a chance. i happened to get in touch with his ex who e introduced me 2. and she told me hes cheating on me, and he tried to say it wasnt true and she just cant take it that he's happy. but ever since then ive felt really insecure and always feel that hes cheating on me. i dunno how to trust him or whether i should. he seems likea really nice person and really genuine. but i cnt stop thinking about what's been said. what do i do? sorry its long.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2006): Trust and doubt, though work hand in hand, aren't the same things. You can trust someone, but still doubt him/her. Trust is a frame of mind, and doubt can not be avoided, even if you try.
To the basics, you don't need to do anything. If the doubt overwhelms your trust for him, then you can free your insecurities by breaking up with him. Otherwise, for trust to work, it will take time and patience.
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