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writes: Dear Cupid,I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half and at the beginning as all couples do we kissed but sex was never something that ever KICKED off..I think I may have been his first he jokes and says I am but I'm not sure..Still!!... Yes we do have sex maybe 4 times a week but it feels like I am always anitiating it and we NEVER kiss during sex or ever just a puker on the lips when goin asleep etc.He has told me he hates kissing thinks its the most stupid thing in the world but I love it and its really starting to get to me because when we do have sex I want the passion of a kiss also and he just doesn't see the point.I love him to bits but often feel rejected as I don't feel he really ever just wants to hop on me.I think if I didn't do anything for a week or two it wouldn't bother him or else it would be once a week.I just don't know if he has a sex drive.If I'm horny I need to get it out of my system if he is he can just forget bout it and walk off..(eg.a quickie before work is never an option!) sounds funny maybe but it bugs me..Is this really an issue or something that he possible just doesn't have a feel for?
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reader, Chelsea  +, writes (25 August 2006):
 I think that even though he jokes about it, you may well have been his first. Maybe he doesn't feel comfortable initiating sex or is just too used to you doing it. You could try talking to him about it.
As for kissing, maybe you were the first for that too and may have possibly gone along with it because it was his first time and then found out that he doesn't like it. Otherwise it could be down to hygiene.
Good luck x
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 August 2006): This may be some strange advice...but here goes. Doesn't sound like he has a problem kissing (since you did it in the beginning, right?) or having sex (since you're still doing it 4X a week). I was on the opposite end of this...what happened (cringe) was that my boyfriend started to have bad breath. I would shy away from kissing him, and outright reject him, and finally got the nerve to tell him (after he started to feel the way you say you do). So yes it could be his issue, but make sure that the oral hygeine is up to par.
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