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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Well, this is kind of complicated.. and I could use some advice please.. I haven't told anyone about how I'm feeling and I think I just need to tell someone and get some help.Basically, I met a guy on the internet in February we started going out in March, and we're still together now. We hardly see each other.. and I know that living far apart from each other is going to make us not see each other a lot etc. (He lives about 3 hours drive away from me) But, I feel that me and him are slowly losing that closeness we used to have.. I like talking to my mates that are guys and having them flirt with me.I've recently met a guy from where I live who lives about 15 minutes away. We started chatting and he sometimes said 'It'd be so easier if you were single!' and I used to spend loads of time on the phone to him! I went on the phone to him one night at 11pm.. and we ended up getting off the phone at 4am.. We just seemed to hit it off straight from the start!Now, i don't know whether to leave this guy who I hardly see, to be with this guy who lives a couple of minutes away.. I did try and talk to my boyfriend and try to break up with him, but it never seemed to work! I tried talking to him about it.. saying that it's a bit hard for us not being able to see each other, and he'd always say back 'I know it is at the moment, but don't worry, it'll be fine soon'.. And I'm still waiting for it to get fine!I really get on with both of them, they are both really really different to each other but I get on with both of them.BUT, there is also the thing where I don't know if this guy that lives near me likes me.. He texts me quite a few times and wants me to phone him a lot, and he wants me to come out and see him quite a few times.. But I don't know if he does like me.. and I don't want to ask in case it really messes things up with us.. I don't know what to doo! :/ any help pleasee?
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 if you are even interested in someone else you need to consider that the LDR is not going to work.
LDRs are hard even in the best of circumstances (mine for example where we have the ability to see each other regularly and have planned an end date to the distance)
Teens in LDRS are not a good bet for making it work permanently I'm sorry to say.
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reader, Tom Obler +, writes (22 July 2011):
 Just a thought, I believe your LDR has come to an end regardless of the new boy on the scene. I think the new boy has just opened your mind to the limits of your LDR. It's a shame but you are 3 hours away and need a closer boyfriend. So, first thing would be to end the LDR but and I advise you here DO NOT jump straight into a new relationship with the new boy. Take time to get over the LDR and possibly get to know the new boy. He is obviously keen, but, his comment about "it would be easier if you were single." was not very nice in respect to your current boyfriend. Don't just break up and then go with the new guy. Take some time out. Hope all works for you.
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