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anonymous
writes:i broke up with my bf the same day he found out his father is very sick and can die anyday... ok this might sound very bad on my part but my ex bf really didnt leave me no choice... he has been calling me names putting me down and always accusing me of being a cheater for about a yr now.. it really bothered him to know that i had cheated in the past when i was married to my ex husband. the cheating happen like 8 yrs ago.. but what really gets to my ex is that i cheated with 2 friends of my ex husband.. i try to explain to my now ex bf i wuz very young and my marriage wuz an abusive one that was no good.. but i now realized i shouldnt have cheated i should of just left.. but my ex bf staret getting images of me in bed with the 2 guys and he just would go crazy on me by calling me names..and if he seen guys talking to me he said it wuz my fault cuz i probably gave them reasons to come and talk to me... he just wouldnt shut up he just always assumed the worst of me..i can say he really tryed to get over my past bcuz ik he really loves me but it just gets the best of him.. but know that his dad is back in his life after him being absent for years and also very ill and dying any day now i feel very bad i really love him but i also cannot put up with anymore of his shit talking am so fed up... but i also feel very very bad that he is going through a difficult time... should i still b there for him???pls help dont know wht to do... thank you..
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2011): It is OK to feel badly about the situation with your ex partners father. You aren't made of stone. But that doesn't mean you should go back to your ex. He was abusive and did not trust you. Those things won't change and after a while you would find yourself right back at Square One. You have already made the break, which is the hardest part. So if i were you, i would offer my sympathies but keep my distance.
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reader, Danielepew  +, writes (22 July 2011):
 Ideally, you could be there for him. In real life, I don't think so. He would use you. I think you can still show interest in the father's health, and your boyfriend's well-being, without that necessarily implying that you have to be in a relationship.
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