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writes:They call it a "dry spell", when nothing happens for a very long time, it has been a long time, time that I spent healing past issues and throwing away bagagge, but now I notice that I am just terrified, and just can t do the traditional date: maybe you like them, maybe they like you, sexual tension in the air, and maybe the other person is a horrible creep. Now I feel all this healing process was BS, because I still don t feel like taking risks. Is it so bad to just say: I am sorting through some issues, I like you, can t we meet as friends for some time? Will this make all men run away? I feel sad now, is this still the old issues or have I just become chicken? Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeygirl  +, writes (15 March 2012):
 "Is it so bad to just say: I am sorting through some issues, I like you, can t we meet as friends for some time?"
This is an excellent idea! You will feel safer and it will be easier to move into a deeper relationship with someone who you really like.
You have obviously been very hurt in the past, so dont rush anything, take one day at a time.
Sometimes what starts out as a friendship turns into a beautiful relationship.
Oh, and if the guy/s are not interested in being friends, well then, you are better off without them.
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