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writes:I really want to try anal, believe me but I am terrified! Every time he sticks his finger in, I freak out and pull his hand out. I don't know what to do! He isn't pressuring me or anything and I really want to...just a bit scared of the first time :( Advice?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (15 March 2012):
 Anal sex doesn't hurt if you do it right. At least for most people. You need to be in control though, not him. He can't be "poking" you as he wish, you're the one who needs to thread yourself on whatever it is you want inserted. Like if it is his finger, he needs to wait with pushing until you push up against him first, and you're the one who controls the speed and how much...
You also need to relax your anus. Like when you're going to the bathroom to do a number two. Press a little, and the anus will relax and open up. Naturally it is crucial that you have been to the bathroom already, or douched, before you have any anal play. Or else you'll just end up with poop at unwanted places.
If you want his penis in your vagina I recommend you lay sideways and he rubs up against you. The natural lubricant from his penis, as well as the rubbing itself, will turn you on and also lubricate your anus. When turned on you'll relax your anal muscles, and also get turned on with anticipation.
Then when you are ready, take his penis and control the insertion yourself. Tell him when to push or when to lay still.
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reader, PeachyKeen79 +, writes (15 March 2012):
 Anal sex does hurt and can cause hemorrhoids if done incorrectly. If you decide that you want to try, take a few precautions first. It is best to "evacuate your bowels" beforehand because the pressure of his entry can back your bowels up and cause constipation. Also, use lots (and I mean lots) of lubricant. The slicker the better and more comfortable. Also, if you decide to do it, you should also try to psych yourself up for it. Start in the morning and tell yourself "OK we're gonna do this and we are going to have a great time." When it comes down to the 11th hour, relax! If you are nervous and tense up it will hurt more. But once it is in you will adjust and he will find the right spot. It will give you the most intense orgasm you have ever had. If you want to, allow him just to tickle it first with his finger. Tell him not to stick it in unless you tell him. If you feel comfortable and begin to enjoy it, tell him to just stick in just the tip of his finger. Little by little. Slowly ease yourself into it. If you want to try it you can do it gradually or if you are that type just jump right in with both feet. Depends on your personality. But I would definitely try it at least once. I did and I like it. I mean it's not my everyday routine. But it can spice things up.
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (15 March 2012):
Even with loads of lube its been immpossibly painful with every girl I've tried this with. A guy would have to be completely heartless to carry on knowing that its hurting. I have no doubt if you stretch you anus with suitable objects the pain will diminish but I am not sure how much pleasure will follow. If you are curious about the intimacy thing then by all means explore each others bodies, I recommend a good shower together first and playing with fingers and objects first - a sex shop will sell you a whole beginners kit to play with. You should do the same to him, so you both get an idea of the feelings. Search for other posts on DC but above all remember the hygiene issues. I am sure most people that do this get some related infection at some time and need a doctors visit!
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