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writes:What do you do when he says I love you and your not ready to say it back? I have been seeing this guy, but we havent been together all that long ( I would say we have gone out about ten times). The other day, when we were talking he said he loved me. I like him, but it is still early in our relationship and I am not ready to say if I love him or not. I didn't know how to respond, so I didn't really say anything...just changed the subject. If you were him, what would you be thinking right now. Should I address this with him? Do we have to talk about it, or can I just kind of let it go and hope he understands I am not ready to say it yet? Anyone thats been in this situation, please let me know your opinion. I feel bad for not addressing the situation right away but it really took me off guard.
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reader, Brooklyngirl +, writes (31 December 2009):
 Don't say it if you don't feel it! Don't feel pressured into saying it back. Just tell him you like him a lot but you're ready to say it!
And, as Caring Guy said, those three words are to be taken very seriously!
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reader, arty +, writes (30 December 2009):
Dont feel too bad about it, i was in the same position with my wife before we were married. i felt like i loved her and told her so. she didnt tell me for about 2 mo. after i told her. she had been seriously hurt in a previous relationship and she didnt want to tell me back until she was absolutly sure. i think he will totally understand if he truly cares for you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): my husband told me a year before I told him. I told him that I really liked him a lot but I wouldnt tell him I loved him until I was sure. And I didnt. :) mal
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (30 December 2009):
Just say you've been hurt in the past and take those words very seriously and will say them when you feel it is right for you. I'm sure he will be a little confused, maybe even hurt, but if you just explain that those words mean a lot, hopefully he'll understand.
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