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writes:I am married and my husband treats me ok. Yeah he loves go with his friends to the bar but so do I. We are an ok couple but he just never really pays me attention anymore. I can cook his favortie meal but never receive thanks. I literally do everything for him. I wash clothes, wash dishes, cook, clean, take care of dogs, and everything else around house. I never ask him lift a finger because if I do he gets mad. I can say simples thing and he gets quiet and not talking another sign he upset with me. I just dont know what to do anymore. He moved his dad in with us so we are now paying all his bills on top of ours. Its hard but we survive. His dad can ask him do something he jumps and yet when I ask I get I will do it later or he gets mad. Other night I was at a bar with girls while the guys where at casino doing god knows what since he wont tell me what he does but expects me give him run down what I do. I meet a guy. He's sweet and treated like I've not been treated in while. It felt nice to be danced with complimented touched and looked at. My husband touches me after the sex only. He dont touch romantically. He wants the one thing only. I swapped numbers with guy at bar. We talked and met several times over the past week. I have not done nothing sexually wrong. It just feels nice have someone listen to me. I am so confused on what do. Please help! Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (4 August 2010):
 Sounds like you got married too young.. A husband will hardly acknowledge what you do for him so dont expect a pat on the back everytime you wash his boxers..If ur a housewife like me right now those things are your job..can he help out, yes. Ur husband sounds a lil controlling, very alpha male..If I were u I wouldnt call the man u met because u could end up tempting yourself..Talk to ur husband tell him some things need to change, maybe ud like his help around the house give him a few chores, and also that u need more affection from him..And if the problem continues, i would suggest marriage counseling..its not as bad as it sounds and it does help
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 August 2010): You are heading for dodgy waters here..stop.
Decide and try to make a go with husband tell him how neglected you feel. Take it from there then if it does not get better seperate. Above all do not get involved in a secret affair it is not fair on anyone and causes too much pain. No justification in deceit,saying you are not treated right so thats why you are seeing another man. If this is where you want to go then do the right thing FIRST.
I hope all works out for you.
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reader, Romani +, writes (4 August 2010):
Are you in love with your husband? you say you are an "ok couple " sounds to me like you could take it or leave it. It seems like his indifference has ruined you marriage. I see your age and most people no longer marry so young- do you think that maybe this marriage is falling down hill due to a lack of commitement? You can either Try to work on your marriage or divorce him. You are young and deserve to love and be loved in return. As far as the guy you are seeing - he will only complicate your life. If you cheat you may never get to work on your marriage ( if it's what u desire) try to spend some time thinking what it is you want out of his marriage and discuss with your husband if u desire the same things. Best of luck
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reader, michaelch +, writes (4 August 2010):
 I think you should sit down and talk with your husband, and possibly suggest marriage counseling. Also I would stop meeting up with the other guy at the moment, If your husband gets angry at small things how do you think he will react if he finds out your meeting up with another guy(Even if it's just to talk)?
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