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writes:I met this guy at work. We started texting recently we even made plans to hang out one night at the Movies. He kind of made it clear were friends but still flirts with me. He canceled the plans for family reasons. He hasn't texted me for a few days. What should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 July 2015): It's still not a good idea to be dating guys you work with. If things don't work out, it gets awkward. If you take on an attitude, or can't get along at work; someone could get fired.
Keep that in-mind. Since you insist on doing it.
Also remember he told you, you're just friends. If you were feeling just friends about it; it wouldn't have bothered you enough to post a question when he cancelled on you. You think you're going to make him like you the way you want him to.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have an update we texted and ended up going to the movies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2015): Sounds like he already has a girlfriend. This guy is playing you along; because you've made it too apparent that you like him. He's cancelling-out and not responding, to allow you to sit and wait. The waiting will eventually turn into impatience; and you'll call nagged by the anticipation of wanting to hear from him. Players and ass-hats use this ploy to see how desperate you are; or if you're the type who'll hunt him down when he's AWOL.
Write him off and delete his number. Block his calls from your phone. He will put you on a shelf to call when he's got nothing better to do; or when he thinks he's got you figured-out and how to play you.
Nice-guys don't cancel last-minute or ignore you; and they don't keep reminding you you're just a friend. He's up to no good. Give him the cold-shoulder, but be cordial, the next time you see him. Leave it at that.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (1 July 2015):
 It's his move, just be patient. Give it five working days if you don't hear from him he's not all that.
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reader, Ciar  +, writes (1 July 2015):
 Nothing. Like Honeypie says, let him go. Don't call him, don't text him and if he contacts you don't mention the cancelled outting or try to schedule another. Maybe be a bit more formal with him and cut out the flirting (or don't respond to it when he does). He 'kind of made it clear you were just friends' because he knows his actions suggest something else.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI should also mention that he was the one who wanted to hang out with me. I didn't ask to make plans he did.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 July 2015): Aww - don't write him off just yet! He may still come back - it could be a genuine problem that has held him up.
I would give him a week or two - but if you still don't hear from him - put it down to a 'knock back'. At your age you probably won't have experienced many knock backs - but they will happen from time to time. It's sad & it hurts - but better to have them at the start rather than when you are more involved with this guy!
Good luck!
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (1 July 2015):
 Let him go.
He is a flake.
He made plans but then cancelled at last minute. While I get that FAMILY IS more important, it seems a little convenient for him to use it as an excuse.
If you are looking to make friends, he is not going to be a good one.
If you are hoping it could turn into more... forget it.
Go hang out with your REAL friends.
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